Blogging vs. Slogging

I have been slogging for my next exam... the big one... which is supposed to happen on the 7th of July. Therefore, I have not been able to post anything useful up here for quite some time now. I have also delayed replying to your comments, and have hardly posted any comments on the blogs I read!

I apologize for that, and just want to say that things are going to get worse from now! I am officially going on a big-time study break now. I'll probably not post anything new here till I get done with this exam. But then again, you can never be sure with me, right? I'm so impulsive! So I might just post another game or two... chances are very minimal though.

Please hang in there... I'll come back on the 7th or 8th now... and will start commenting on your blogs again too.

In the meantime, do play some games here... they are just one-click away, right up there on the "hanging ceiling" of this space. Or check out my "Memorabilia" collection (again up there for easy accessibility)... or you can even go through the archives here. This blog is, after all, 2.5 years old, with more than 230 posts!

And for those of my new readers who have started following this blog in the last 1 month or so, please check out this post "The Blogitzer"... and vote for me. Thanks.

See you all soon... miss meeeeeee!


Bejeweled is another classic web puzzle game that I added here on suggestion of Mahesh. It is highly addictive! I used to play it on till a few years ago. Luckily, I found a Flash version of it that could be embedded within a blog post.

Here's how you play Bejeweled

The objective of Bejeweled is to align at least 3 similar gems in a row, horizontally or vertically, so that they can be cleared off the board, and new ones cascade in from the top.

And how do we align them? By swapping a gem with another adjacent gem. Note that you can only swap gems that will result in a winning set of 3 or more gems of the same kind. The winning set will be blown off the board, scoring you points of course. And then the gems above them would drop down in their place.

You get bonus points for combo sets and cascades. Combos are when one swap results in more than one winning set. And cascades happen when, by clearing one winning set off the board, you end up aligning another winning set.

As you score points, the bar at the bottom of the screen starts to fill up. When the bar is completely full, you will progress on to the next level. When there are no possible moves on the screen, the game ends.

So enjoy playing Bejeweled...


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The 12 Zodiac Personality Types

What is the one thing that we can never resist taking a look at?
Our horoscope! Or anything really that tells us about our zodiac sign! :D

I happen to be a practical and wise Capricorn. What about you?

The Daredevil
Energetic. Adventurous and spontaneous. Confident and enthusiastic. Fun. Loves a challenge. EXTREMELY impatient. Sometimes selfish. Short fuse. (Easily angered.) Lively, passionate, and sharp wit. Outgoing. Lose interest quickly - easily bored. Egotistical. Courageous and assertive. Tends to be physical and athletic.

The Enduring One
Charming but aggressive. Can come off as boring, but they are not. Hard workers. Warm-hearted. Strong, has endurance. Solid beings who are stable and secure in their ways. Not looking for shortcuts. Take pride in their beauty. Patient and reliable. Make great friends and give good advice. Loving and kind. Loves hard - passionate. Express themselves emotionally. Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums. Determined. Indulge themselves often. Very generous.

The Chatterbox
Smart and witty. Outgoing, very chatty. Lively, energetic. Adaptable but needs to express themselves. Argumentative and outspoken. Likes change. Versatile. Busy, sometimes nervous and tense. Gossips. May seem superficial or inconsistent, but is only changeable. Beautiful physically and mentally.

The Protector
Moody, emotional. May be shy. Very loving and caring. Pretty/handsome. Excellent partners for life. Protective. Inventive and imaginative. Cautious. Touchy-feely kind of person. Needs love from others. Easily hurt, but sympathetic.

The Boss
Very organized. Need order in their lives - like being in control. Like boundaries. Tend to take over everything. Bossy. Like to help others. Social and outgoing. Extroverted. Generous, warm-hearted. Sensitive. Creative energy. Full of themselves. Loving. Doing the right thing is important to Leos. Attractive.

The Perfectionist
Dominant in relationships. Conservative. Always wants the last word. Argumentative. Worries. Very smart. Dislikes noise and chaos. Eager. Hardworking. Loyal. Beautiful. Easy to talk to. Hard to please. Harsh. Practical and very fussy. Often shy. Pessimistic.

The Harmonizer
Nice to everyone they meet. Can't make up their mind. Have own unique appeal. Creative, energetic, and very social. Hates to be alone. Peaceful, generous. Very loving and beautiful. Flirtatious. Give in too easily. Procrastinators. Very gullible.

The Intense One
Very energetic. Intelligent. Can be jealous and/or possessive. Hardworking. Great kisser. Can become obsessive or secretive. Holds grudges. Attractive. Determined. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Can be self-centered at times. Passionate and Emotional.

The Happy-Go-Lucky One
Good-natured optimist. Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome). Indulges self. Boastful. Likes luxuries and gambling. Social and outgoing. Doesn't like responsibilities. Often fantasizes. Impatient. Fun to be around. Having lots of friends. Flirtatious. Doesn't like rules. Sometimes hypocritical. Dislikes being confined - tight spaces or even tight clothes. Doesn't like being doubted. Beautiful inside and out.

The Go-Getter
Patient and wise. Practical and rigid. Ambitious. Tends to be good-looking. Humorous and funny. Can be a bit shy and reserved. Often pessimists. Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be unfriendly at times. Hold grudges. Like competition. Get what they want.

The Sweetheart
Optimistic and honest. Sweet personality. Very independent. Inventive and intelligent. Friendly and loyal. Can seem unemotional. Can be a bit rebellious. Very stubborn, but original and unique. Attractive on the inside and out. Eccentric personality.

The Dreamer
Generous, kind, and thoughtful. Very creative and imaginative. May become secretive and vague. Sensitive. Don't like details. Dreamy and unrealistic. Sympathetic and loving. Kind. Unselfish. Good kisser. Beautiful.

Did you check your zodiac sign? Are you anything like what this says?

Color Junction Champion

This post is especially for Obhiroop Dada!

Dada! You said you wanted proof of me being able to clear the board in Color Junction... well, here it is! A screen-shot... taken minutes ago! :D

I just received a comment on the "Color Junction" post... and before replying to it, I decided to play the game. I haven't played it for weeks now... been completely hooked up with "Mahjong" instead! But guess what! Only 2 games played... and I got a clear board in my very 2nd game! In fact, I was just about to navigate away from that page, to reply to the remaining comments, when I remembered Abhiroop wanted a screen-shot as evidence! So I took one!

Haahh! How's that Dada? Do you believe me now? ;-) :D :D

Bloggers' Meet: New Delhi

I will be in New Delhi from July 11th morning to July 19th evening. As discussed with some of you on chat through the Yahoo Pingbox widget here, it was suggested we meet up in Delhi sometime during then.

I believe most of the Delhi bloggers in our community are from North Delhi, West Delhi, South Delhi and the NCR. Hence, it was recommended that we choose a venue somewhere in South Delhi, which would be convenient for the NCR people as well.

Just one glitch... I have a tendency of losing my way in Delhi! I DO manage to reach my destination eventually, but an hour or 2 later than when I am supposed to! :( However, there ARE 2 places in South Delhi where I'm sure I can reach without getting lost! :D

They are:

1. Dilli Haat: Wouldn't be Air Conditioned, but nobody would mind if we get a bit noisy.
2. PVR Saket CCD/Barista etc: Would be easier to locate each other if we have a fixed place. Also, a bit of Air Conditioning would definitely be welcome in the heat!


Well, we have 2 Saturdays (11th and 18th), and 1 Sunday (12th)... although, I'll be free to meet even on weekdays, 'coz I'll be "on vacation"! :D But I figured you guys might have work/classes during weekdays.

So all those of you who are interested and would be free to meet, just leave a comment here and we can settle down on one date and time, and one place. And yes, please do pray for the arrival of monsoons before then! :(

Looking forward to seeing you all...
Cheers! :D


As discussed in the comments below, we have a 3rd (and better) option for the venue: CP (Connaught Place). That's where we plan to hold the meeting now. Where exactly in CP? Hmmmm. Join in the discussion below to help decide on that please!

The Date has been fixed for 12th July now. It is a Sunday.

Proposed time for the meet: 4.00-4.30 pm. (So hopefully, everybody should reach there by maximum 5 pm, considering that we Indians are used to arriving at... well, "Indian Standard Time!")

IMPORTANT: All those who are interested in attending this meeting, please leave your name, area of residence in Delhi, email id and contact number. You can send the details to my email id, given in my blogger profile. We'll need the details to coordinate with each other. Thanks.

Final plans about the proposed meet are at this post: "Updates on Our Bloggers' Meet".


Mastermind is probably one of the oldest and most popular puzzle games that have been around since before the internet was born. I am sure most of you must have played the board version of this game at some point of time in your life. I used to play it with my sister more than 15 years ago, when we were still in Kanpur. Eventually, we passed it on (read: "donated it") to our younger cousins in Patna.

How to play Mastermind?

The object of the game is to guess the color and sequence of the 4 pegs hidden at the bottom of the board.

Click on "Game Rules" to get the instructions for playing the game.

For each peg you choose of the correct color but not in the correct place, a small white peg will appear. For each peg that is of the correct color AND in the correct place, a small black peg will appear.

There are instances when you get lucky and solve the puzzle in the very first move! However, assuming that you get a fair game, that promises to be solved only with the help of pure logical reasoning, you should still be able to solve it within 10 moves! But if you manage to do it within 6 moves, then you are simply a genius!

You guessed it: I am already a genius! I usually complete it in less than 6 moves! [takes a bow]

The trick in Mastermind, if I may share it here, is to start with 2 pegs each of 2 colors... and then switch to 2 pegs each of 2 completely different colors in your second move.

Go on then... try this game... and leave a comment with your best score.


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The "Girl on Chat"

Few days ago, I wrote this “hot” post which inspired much discussion and debate here. Different people reacted in different ways. One of my friends shared that post with one of his other friends on chat… some 20-year-old female, who was as unknown to me as I was to her. And then he copy pasted her “feedback” on that post, to me, on chat. Actually, it was not so much a feedback on *that post* as it was a feedback on *me*!

This girl was absolutely amazing! She managed to chalk-out my entire personality structure on the basis of just one-line in that post… “Our men-folks simply can’t stop themselves from ogling at all the wrong parts of the anatomy of a female walking down the road!”

Three very strong *assumptions* about my personality/character she communicated through her comments:

1. What kind of girl I was to think of female body parts as “wrong parts”! I’m sure NONE of my other readers here (except her and my friend who recommended this post to her) had any confusion in interpreting that line the way I meant it … “wrong parts” as in “parts which are wrong to be stared at”! Then how come only these 2 people weren’t able to see what was directly in front of them? Reminds me of my old post here “Illusion”!

2. The above was immediately followed by the assumption that I must be “constantly focusing” on these things only, so that the Law of Attraction is working! Now, I have “preached” N number of times here, about the Law of Attraction, as those of you who have been following this blog for some time now will know. But was it the Law of Attraction that caused a plane to crash somewhere near the Bermuda Triangle recently? All the passengers on that plane were “constantly focusing” on dying in a plane crash, weren’t they! And a 9-year-old boy was sexually abused by some house-maid… he was also apparently “constantly focusing” on getting raped, right? Frankly, how many 9-year-olds even know about sex? (Ok maybe they do in today’s times, but I was thinking of those “good ol’ days” when I was about that age!) We need to understand that there is a considerable amount of difference between “constantly focusing” on something and “acknowledging the existence” of something in the world. Law of Attraction doesn’t ask you to live in a state of denial. (Fantasy world?)

3. Lastly, she was kind enough to sum up the basic problem of my personality – on the basis of that one sentence alone – that it’s got nothing to do with whether I’m beautiful or not… it’s more because of the body language I exude. Can you believe it? She was able to gauge my “body language” too from that one sentence! WOW! And she has no idea about the level of interaction I’ve had with guys, or the fact that I studied in a co-ed school, having more male friends than female (but that was only because girls to boys ratio was like 1:4 in our school)! She has never seen me, doesn’t know what I look like or dress like, has no idea of the kind of shoes I wear, or the way I walk, or talk, or smile, and yet she was able to calculate automatically that there was something wrong with my body language! Oh but she was nice – she said most girls do this unconsciously; they are not aware of it themselves! (Ahhhh! Just the escape route I needed!)

For the past few days, I have been in two minds as to whether to post about this or not, ‘coz I really don’t give that much importance to strangers in circumstances like these. But eventually I figured this happened for a reason… and therefore, I MUST post it.

You see… it’s because of mindsets like these that little kids aren’t able to go and tell their parents about any kind of sexual harassment they might have to face. Some 13-year old girl is out shopping with her folks when a couple of guys on a motorbike pass by her, grabbing at one of her breasts, (deliberately choosing to remain ignorant of the fact that it hurts her as much as it would hurt them if somebody kicked them in the groin!) and she pretends they only got hold of her ‘chunni’ because she doesn’t want to face the harshly judgmental look (screaming disgust, disapproval & disappointment!) on her parents’ faces! Of course, she has to keep the tears in check too (the ‘ganga-jamuna’ originating in her eyes!) in order to play a convincing role, but then she’s probably already become expert at hiding her tears in her 13 years on the planet!

Coming back to this girl on chat… I really DO hope, and pray, for the sake of her kids, that she stops being so judgmental. And any of you parents out there who might be reading this post… please don’t automatically blame your kids if any such thing happens to them. Don’t leave their hand when they need your support the most. Don’t be like this girl on chat…


4 Yellow Flowers

My Dad & I went to my Uncle's place here yesterday afternoon. When we came down & walked to our car in the parking area, to head back for home, this is what we found adorning our emerald green Maruti 800!

These 4 yellow flowers had been carefully arranged in those tiny slits at the base of the windshield wipers. By whom - we knew not! I removed them from there and stepped inside the car, with those flowers, to show them to Dad.

Towards the front of the building, we saw a couple of kids playing... the kind whom we fondly refer to as "street urchins". When they saw us drive out of the building, they smiled shyly at us, and looked at each other.

I looked at them. They looked at the flowers. I looked at the flowers. Their smiles widened slightly, still remaining shy. I looked up again and understood. They were the ones who had decided to play 'God' with our car! (Perhaps they hadn't been allowed entry into a temple!)

Out of the 2 dozen cars standing in the parking lot, including some sparkling new specimens of the latest models, the 2 kids had taken a fancy to our old beaten-down, badly scratched and bruised Maruti 800! Maybe they thought that the green looked cool with the yellow? :-/

I beamed at them. One of my 1000 watt killer smiles! They got confused. And then they beamed right back at me. TWO 1000 watt killer smiles! And we drove off. With the image of those 2 toothy grins in our minds. And these 4 yellow flowers in my hand.

P.S. - The pictures are a little blurred 'coz they were taken by my Dad's cell phone in a moving car!

Women Rule!

Ok fellas! Rashmi and I have just managed to figure out that we women indeed are better than men! We have something 'more' than men... something 'extra'!

Following is the calculation based on which we have proved our theory.


Men = Men-tal
Women = Senti + mental


Women = Senti + Men
Women - Men = Senti
Women - Men > 0
Women > Men

Hence proved.

I hope there is no more confusion left now. :-D


25 Reasons...

At times I feel men just never grow up from being a 3-year-old toddler! Nikita's post stated so clearly as to what kind of men it was directed at, and yet you guys are getting all hurt and senti over it! Weird! But then there a lot of other things about men that are equally weird! Will write more about that later though, as and when I feel like, but, today I'll share something that I wrote a few years ago. Perhaps this might act as a soothing balm for all your frayed souls (or egos should I say?)... those of you who don't come under the category that Nikita addressed! :-)

This was written by me in reply to a forwarded mail that one of the girls from my class in school posted to our batch's yahoogroup. You must have come across the original forward doing the rounds on the net earlier, but, I'll post it again here to refresh your memories. "25 reasons why guys like girls" and my reply to it - "25 reasons why girls like guys". I wrote this several years ago... posting it here without any editing.



A few reasons why guys like girls:-

1. They will always smell good, even if it is just shampoo.
2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder.
3. How cute they look when they sleep.
4. The ease with which they fit into our arms.
5. The way they kiss you... and all of a sudden, everything is right in the world.
6. How cute they are when they eat.
7. The way they take hours to get dressed... but in the end, make it all worth while.
8. They are always warm, even when its minus 30 outside.
9. The way they look good, no matter what they wear.
10. The way they fish for compliments, even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth.
11. How cute they are when they argue.
12. The way her hand always finds yours.
13. The way they smile.
14. The way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight.
15. The way she says "lets not fight anymore", even though you know that an hour later, you will be arguing about something else.
16. The way they kiss you when you do something nice for them.
17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you".
18. Actually ... just the way they kiss you...
19. The way they fall into your arms when they cry.
20. Then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly.
21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt.
22. Then the way they apologize when it does hurt... (even though we don't admit it)!
23. The way they say "I miss you".
24. The way you miss them.
25. The way their tears make you want to change the world, so that it doesn't hurt her anymore.

Yet regardless if you love them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without them ... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever they were to the world, they become everything to you.

When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without the trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitably consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart.

We love them for a million reasons. No paper would do it justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart... a feeling only felt...


Hi everybody,

I'm sure all of you must have noticed that the chain letter which Gargi forwarded to us, was not complete. Although it did enlighten us about why the guys like us, it failed to mention anything about why we girls like the men folk. I thought I might provide the missing info... or at least attempt to do so...

A few reasons why girls like guys:-

1. They will always say that we smell so nice, even if we have just come out of the barnyard.
2. They keep looking for excuses to hug us.
3. And their arms, somehow, always manage to find our waists.
4. The way they just love to play with our hair... mess it all up, so we have to spend ages getting it all straightened out once again.
5. The way they never let us pay our share when they take us out to the movies.
6. And how they hold our hand while crossing the roads with us (???)
7. The way our hands literally disappear in their larger ones.
8. The way they stuff us into their jackets when we are feeling cold.
9. And suddenly present us with a bunch of flowers... or some other similar gift... for no particular reason at all.
10. Although they always... ALWAYS forget birthdays and anniversaries !!!
11. The way they keep complimenting us about our culinary skills (which we may or may not possess...) while they gobble up all the food we serve them.
12. Or the way they sometimes say that they are surely going to fall sick after eating that food... but gobble it up anyway.
13. Actually... just the way they gobble up everything we put in front of them.
14. The way they start pacing up and down the balcony or veranda, if we are even 5 minutes late from shopping.
15. And... the moment we step inside the house... start scolding us for being late, instead of simply admitting that they were getting worried about our safety.
16. They look so vulnerable when they are sleeping.
17. And they never admit that it DOES hurt when we hit them... even though they know that WE know it does.
18. They simply love to argue with us... knowing fully well that WE'LL end up sulking and THEY'LL end up "manaofying" us.
19. And they always keep showering us with compliments... mostly half-truths or plain lies... only to tell their friends later, that WE "fish for compliments" from THEM!
20. The way they miss us when we are not with them...
21. And the way they kiss us when we meet again... which leaves no doubts what-so-ever, in our minds, about the truth of the above statement.
22. The way they PULL us into their arms when we are crying about something...
23. And later say we messed up their shirts...
24. While the look in their eyes says that they WILL change the world for us... so that it doesn't hurt us any more...
25. When, in the end, all they really have to do is kiss our tears away... and the sun starts shining once more...

Well... I guess that's all I can think of at the moment... but, this list isn't complete, by any means! And if one of you girls can think of something else, please feel free to add on.

I don't think that it's fair to be always on the receiving end of all the attention and admiration. I think that, once in a while, we ought to let the guys know too, that they are also as important to us as we are to them. Their place, in our life, is as special as ours is in theirs. And we appreciate whatever they do for us.


So there... that should keep you levitated for a few days at least! I DO believe that majority of men come under this category... it's just that most have become experts at hiding their real self! That being said, male-bashing will continue happening on this blog! :-D

P.S. - And they say WE fish for compliments! [rolls eyes in complete disbelief]

P.P.S. - This helmet below has been provided on special request by Sumit. Read comments below for details.

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“Kaddu Tech Support” Now Ventures into Math Support!

I have been used to receiving unexpected calls from family and friends at all weird times, requesting for “tech support” regarding their PC, ever since I stopped working for Dell. I didn’t receive these calls when I WAS working for Dell, because:

a. I didn’t have a phone for quite a few months initially.
b. I used to sleep during the day, and I was sensible enough to switch my phone off when I was sleeping!
c. Most of my family and friends had still not been able to digest the fact that girls can do anything technical. (Let me boast a little about myself here – I can comfortably assemble an entire PC completely on my own, which implies that yes, I CAN use a screw-driver!)

Anyways… so for the last 2 years especially, I have gained quite a reputation locally, and even in Guwahati, for my so-called ‘tech skills’, which, by the way, are limited to computers alone! I am scared of escalators and there is absolutely no way you can get me on an automatic treadmill! And I usually can’t figure out most of the latest mobile phones either! But I got side-tracked again…

I was saying that while I’m pretty used to providing tech support on phone, today was the first time when I was asked to provide Math support too on phone!

My chacha called me up all the way from Guwahati, asking me how to find the square root of a number. And he meant ‘without using a calculator’! I gathered it was to help out my cousin Rishu in his school homework! Sighhhhh! The plan, apparently, was that I would teach chacha, and then chacha would teach Rishu! But there was just one problem – I didn’t remember the method!

LOL! So we decided to take an example whose answer we knew, and then figure out a method that would give us that answer! The number 2, with a square root of 1.414… that’s the example we selected. And this is how we eventually figured out the method for calculating the square root of a number! Phewwwww!
Realized 2 things from this incident:

1. Parenting is a tough job, requiring a lot of innovation & creativity.
2. The improved telecommunication facilities ARE being put to some constructive use too!

So… from today, ‘Kaddu Tech Support’ officially launches its sister concern ‘Kaddu Math Support’!

Trick Post!

Ok fellows! One full day over! Now its time to let the cats officially out of the bag! My previous post, as some of you who have been following the comments must have already figured out, was a trick post!

I made a lot of annoying and hard-hitting generalizations about Indians, which pinched a lot of feelings, and hurt a lot of sentiments. I’m sorry I did that, but I couldn’t see a better way of drawing your attention towards the root of the problem.

It just so happens that I read so many anti-Aussie posts and discussions on the net everywhere – in my blog-o-sphere, on Facebook, other random forums – each one labeling the entire nation of Australia as ‘Racist’. I couldn’t find a single line anywhere that even remotely suggested that there could be another side to the coin too! The scales had been tipping so low towards the “anti-Aussie” side that I was forced to write such a “heavy” post “anti-Indians”! Too bad I didn’t read Vyazz’s take on this issue before writing it, because if I had read it, then there would have been no reason for me to contaminate my ‘peace-loving’ blog with something as frivolous as a current affair topic!

I have a lot of friends who are staying comfortably and peacefully in territories governed by white-skinned people, and they have blended in very well with the culture there. I have some white-skinned friends too, who are equally eager about learning our culture. They cover their head when going to a Gurudwara... they greet you with a ‘Namsate(even when WE use ‘Hi’ now!) complete with the ‘namaste’ hand gesture… and some of them even touch the feet of our parents, in respect, when they come abroad to visit us! They read up about our festivals and even ask us what our name means; because they have already gone to the trouble of finding out that Indian names usually have meaning! Not to forget their fondness for Indian cuisine!

So do we simply forget about all THESE white-skinned people, just on the basis of a few random incidents? Do we completely disregard those millions of other white folks, who are making genuine efforts to learn our culture and bridge the cultural gap? Some of them are even learning our language in fact!


All those points I mentioned about Indians, while they are not valid for the entire nation, are not completely baseless either. Incidents like that do happen, are still happening and will probably continue happening, and in fairly noticeable numbers too! But that doesn’t mean that all Indians are jerks! And my generalized statements put most of you in a defensive frame of mind. You automatically stepped forward to defend Indians, ‘coz you felt hurt and threatened (and even 'disappointed! LOL!)!

Aren’t Aussies humans too like you guys? In fact, all white-skinned people, for that matter! Don’t they have the same feelings too? Don't they feel bad when you put them all in the same category because of a few hardcore racist groups?

Yes, they do get disturbed when Indians out-perform them at times, but they are all not a bunch of dodos either! We seem to have developed this strange ‘superiority complex’ about ourselves, as compared to the rest of the world (or at least that’s how we behave)… but let us not forget that *they* are the ones who are creating the jobs right now. Not the Indian government. All those BPO/medical transcription jobs providing employment to lakhs of ordinary graduates (even B.A.s and B.Com.s), they are coming from the U.S. and the U.K predominantly. And they can’t all be a bunch of complete idiots if they have the capacity to create employment for so many people!

If you really think Indians are such a superior lot, then go on… tell me why aren’t there such entrepreneurs in India? Why aren’t there enough Universities within India, to accommodate not only the Indian students but also a considerable percentage of the outside world? Why can’t Indians manage to keep their public places clean? Why can’t they show even a decent level of traffic sense? (I could go on & on, if you can’t see these things for yourself! But I’m sure you can!) So let us not leave the hand of ‘humility’ on our path to the top!

By repeating statements like “Racist Aussies”, you are putting them in defensive too… just like my previous post did it to you guys! You are increasing hostility between 2 nations. Don’t forget that there are still many more Indians studying/working there. Do you want the 2 countries to go officially at war with each other? The media people obviously want that to happen, so that they’ll have more news to cover!

Right now these incidents took place at just the University level, but do you want them to spread across the nation? So that more of your Indian brothers and sisters are killed there? Or do you want all Indians to leave everything in fright, come back here with their bag & baggage, and resort to burning public buses and trains here in India? That’s what the Biharis did when the MNS incident got out of hand!


The previous post brought out 2 very important examples:

1. Shreesh told us about this Indian diplomat visiting some Paki family, when the host’s 4-year-old started shouting and clapping “Hindu Kutta Hindu Kutta”! We also have impressionable young minds at our homes. Further, we are also responsible for the kind of messages we pass across to those gullible and ignorant auto-walas and those house-maids and the staff and labour-men working in our shops & factories, who listen-in to our conversations with friends and family!

2. And Sonu brought up this incident about Australian cricketers misbehaving with some Indian female, which led to a well-justified hostile public reaction. Fortunately, Indian cricketers stepped in and prevented the story from leaking out in Australia as “racist attack on Aussies in India”! Can you imagine the repercussions of that incident, if it had gone through the “standard media mill”?

I ended my post with the line that “every reaction is another action – which, in turn, will have its own reaction!” Let us not create a “chain of reactions” which will destroy whatever bridge has been formed between the 2 nations. Every word we utter has an attached consequence! That’s why I requested all of us to be responsible for our actions.

Australians are not idiots – their cricketers came to India to play in the IPL matches last year, despite their recent (and very public!) friction with certain Indian cricketers! Mainly for the money they were getting here! Their country needs the revenue coming in from Indian students as much as we need their Universities to study. It’s a mutual give and take… and their Government also knows this. So let us not fight over whether the brain is supreme or the liver is the King, or the heart, or the kidneys...! Besides, as Rads said on Vyazz’s post, when has India been safe for Indians, that we are making such a hullabaloo for the safety of Indians in Australia? My sister stays in Delhi, and my Dad is constantly worried about her safety!

As for racism, well whoever said that white-folks aren’t prejudiced against white-folks too? Haven’t we all heard of the treatment doled out to blondes in the U.S. even today? This is such a noteworthy social problem there apparently, that they’ve even made a couple of Hollywood Blockbusters on it!

The Aussies are as much controlled by their media as we are by ours. But some of us CAN break this chain and step in to educate the rest! We can tell them how a few lakh BPO jobs are giving their economies a big-time boost in several other ways. We can tell them how having more Indians in their country is creating more revenue for their tourism industry. And yes, we can also tell them that the global food shortage is not because of Indians eating more, but because of agricultural land being given away to industrialists to setup Nano-manufacturing units (to give just 1 example)!

The media has covered the story, these incidents have been brought to the notice of our respective governments, and I’m sure they’ll find a solution for this problem sooner than they can possibly make Delhi safe for girls, or Indian college campuses free of brutal ragging! Now let’s not add more fuel to this fire. Let’s instead divert our energies to other such social problems that need action from the Government.

As You Sow, So Shall You Reap!

I can’t understand why we all are making so much fuss about the apparent “racist” incident in Australia! I have already read like 5 blog posts on this topic, and my Facebook feed is also filled with comments & discussions on the same incident! Everybody is pissed-off with Australia big time, but why?

Haven’t you guys heard that “there is no smoke without fire”?

Remember the great Indian Revolt of 1857? It was triggered by something as idiotic as Indian soldiers being given those “new Pattern 1853 Enfield Rifle. To load the new rifle, the sepoys had to bite the cartridge open. It was believed that the paper cartridges that were standard issue with the rifle were greased with lard (pork fat) which was regarded as unclean by Muslims, or tallow (beef fat), regarded as anathema to Hindus.” [Refer to the complete article here.]

Bottomline: If you are living in a foreign country, you simply can’t afford to agitate the local nationals by trying to change the way they live.

We Indians do this wherever we go. We change the entire rules of playing. In fact, we even threaten to change the entire game at times! How can this be acceptable to the foreigners who are extending their hospitality to us (at a good price, ok)?

We Indians are such a repressed and suppressed lot, that our men-folks simply can’t stop themselves from ogling at all the wrong parts of the anatomy of a female walking down the road! I dress in such orthodox way, and still I have to suffer those disgusting looks every time I step out of the house! And, to be very honest, it takes me all my will-power and self-control to not resort to murder right there and then! (Yes, I can kill a guy for treating me like a piece of meat!) Maybe the ‘goris’ in Australia feel the same way too when our Indian lads “size them up” in public!

And forget about the ‘goris’ abroad – how do we treat them in India? Haven’t we all heard of cases in the news when some ‘gori’ was raped and murdered during her visit to India? I remember this recent one who was found dead in Delhi zoo! Why didn’t we have such posts flooding the blog-o-sphere back then… shouting for human rights and justice and what-not for that dead girl?

And if that isn’t enough, we even threaten to change the entire work culture and family structure for those foreigners wherever we go, and even without going anywhere!

We are ready to work night-shifts, at one-fifth of the pay the Americans get for the same kind of work during day-shift! We are ready to work 16 hours a day for no extra pay! We are ready to work on weekends! We are ready to work on holidays too! We are ready to come to work anytime and for any price! Let’s just face it – we have become machines, with no social life!

But the rest of the world is not workaholic like us! The rest of the world does not have a dead social life! The rest of the world does not have a non-existent family life! People in developed countries like to balance work with a personal life. They like to spend weekends with their family/friends. They like to spend the money they earn, and not just keep saving it for their future generations! They like to join dance classes, other kinds of workshops, go on weekend vacations, create their own local musical bands, and so many other things!

And we Indians go there and threaten to change their entire way of living! We force them to either turn into machines like us, or lose their jobs! And then we are pissed off that they don’t want us there anymore! But we told the British to get out too, remember, when they threatened to interfere in our way of living! So why are we getting so angry now? The Kangaroos are probably frustrated that the “tigers-who-breed-like-mice-and-chase-like-rats” are forcing them into the rat race too, and it’s finally showing through! There is nothing racist about it. If white folks from a different country had threatened their way of living like this, they would have got the same treatment too!

WE are the real racists! The difference of brown and white is in our minds! We are the ones who scream for “fair skin”! We are the ones who are ready to lick the feet of our American callers in BPOs! (Yes sir, thank you sir… I have heard it all in my 2-year BPO stint!) And it’s not just color; we show discrimination on the basis of every possible factor! We have reservations on the basis of caste. We have political vote banks on the basis of religion. And our states are constantly fighting for separate existence! Remember what the Biharis had to suffer last year in Maharashtra? ‘Jai Maharashtra’! ... ‘Mi Mumbaikar’!

What exactly are these ‘Mumbaikars’ so proud of anyways? Most of the business community of the country consists of Gujjus, Marwaris and Punjabis/Sindhis. The service class consists of Biharis, Bengalis and Southies mostly. So if the Maharashtrians/Mumbaikars can’t keep pace with the rest of the country, they start throwing them out of their territory? Is that the solution? Well then, that’s exactly what the Aussies have done too! So why are we cribbing about it now? We set an example, they are following it now! Every action has a reaction. There is a payback for every piece of Karma… and this is what it is now!

As for Ahimsa, you really think Indians are still following Ahimsa? You’ve got to be kidding me! One of my very close friends from school was forced to abort her second pregnancy, because her unborn child happened to be a female! Is that Ahimsa? Drunken husbands still beat up wives in most parts of our society – is that Ahimsa? The kind of ragging that happens these days in colleges – does that come under the category of ‘Ahimsa’? Shobhit just wrote this post on our "brutal birthday bashes"! And we say we follow 'Ahimsa'! Haahhh? What distorted perceptions!

And the best part is all of us sitting here, passing judgments on an entire nation, when we don’t even know what exactly happened there, that led to the death of some student! It could have just started as a normal college bash between 2 guys, for all you know, and then got blown so out of proportion because one of those 2 guys happened to be an Indian, and the other one, an Australian! Haven’t we seen this sort of thing happen in all walks of life?

Two kids get into a fight at the bus stop. Their parents, instead of stopping them, start fighting among themselves. One of them happens to be a Bihari family. So the other says “Oh you Biharis are all like this, always creating trouble wherever you go!” Oh but there happens to be another Bihari family on the same bus stop, and they overhear this statement, and join in! And then the rest of the parents follow suit! And eventually the auto-rikshaw drivers stop to see what’s happening, and obviously, most of them are Biharis! And lo and behold! Before you can even remember the name of the first President of independent India, there is a war going on between Biharis and non-Biharis!

And then the news reporters try to get their own story out of this, and confront people sitting in Bihar, who weren’t even there at the location of the original incident, and ask them if they should be given a separate country! And then there is a viewer poll on it, and you are asked to SMS ‘A’ or ‘B’ to some 5-digit number, and the cellular service providers mint money out of this, along with the news channels, while the country burns in hell! Oh and the Opposition party tries to convince the nation that somehow, these ‘riots’ are happening because of some fault of the current government in power in that State! And that somehow, they should have been able to dream that something like this was going to happen in their State, and make necessary 'arrangements' to prevent it! Some ‘Opportunists’! Personally, I wouldn’t let it past the news channels to have started the fight themselves! Or to have paid someone to start the fight!

Get the right perspective guys! Once again, I repeat – if you see half a glass of water placed in front of you, don’t automatically jump to the assumption that it is half-empty or half-full! Just look at it as half a glass of water please! And don’t believe everything that the news channels throw at you… most of it is manipulated! Keep your cool! Refrain from passing judgments! And most importantly, keep your own eyes open and your wits around you! Don’t let the media talk you into any kind of reaction! Because remember – every reaction is another action – which, in turn, will have its own reaction!

Just do your own work, think happy thoughts, be positive, be creative, be responsible for your own actions and decisions… and the world will take care of itself automatically!

Love is Not A Perfectionist!

Was having a “walk-the-talk” session earlier today, with a girl in my building, and the discussion eventually led to “men” and “relationships”! She told me about this college classmate of hers… some Muslim guy from Patna, who was involved with a Hindu girl from out-of-Patna, who stayed here in a hostel close to his place. Obviously, the girl’s parents had launched a “groom hunt” for her on full scale “back home”! Eventually it seemed as if they were about to zero-in on somebody, and so she completely freaked out!

This Muslim guy she was involved with showed such strength of character! They both knew their parents would never accept an inter-religion marriage. So he told his parents he was going to Delhi for a week to find out about some coaching (as they were still in college)… went to Delhi and got himself a job in a BPO instead! Then he came back to Patna, and with a lot of help from their friends, they got married in the registrar’s office!

Their friends collected some money between themselves & gave it to them as their wedding gift! And with that little bit of money, and nothing else, they ran off to Delhi, took up a one room place there on rent, worked their asses off (the girl also got through in a BPO) and last they were heard of in India, they were making over 1 lakh a month between the 2 of them… and today, they are nicely settled in Africa somewhere!


I can’t stop myself from comparing their love story with some others, which did not end on such a happy note… guys who didn’t have the guts to stand up against their parents’ emotional blackmails… guys who gave up on their love just because they were not settled in their career at that point of time!

So what’s the difference between these two kinds of guys? Nothing much on the surface level. They’re both equally intelligent, more-or-less equally educated, come from a similar kind of family background too. The difference is only in the choices they make. One gives up on it, the other gives it all he has!

This Muslim guy was able to carry it through, because he believed "We can make a beautiful life together". The other men are not able to take such a decisive step because they think “I might not be able to give her the beautiful life she deserves.” The difference is in the “I” and the “WE”. If you work as a team, there is nothing you can’t achieve. If you work alone, life itself seems a burden!

Love doesn’t mean bringing down the stars and the moon for the girl you love... love means inspiring the girl to reach for the stars and the moon on her own. Love isn’t about “things”… love is about “togetherness”. Love isn’t a destination… it is an ongoing journey.

See this picture above? Some of the most pleasurable moments of our lives are so simple and inexpensive! I don’t love my Dad for the things he gave me… I love him for the time he spent with me – helping me in my Maths homework, playing badminton with me, listening to all my tales from the school!

Some 30 years ago, my father left Patna with a little less than Rs. 200 in his pockets. He took loan from my nanaji in Kanpur (at the prevalent market rates!), setup a small-scale industry, worked his arse off without even a personal vehicle of his own, and after a couple of months, fetched mom & me from Patna to join him there. (Yes, we already existed in his life that time, and no, my sister wasn't born yet!) The only saving grace you can say was that he had free accommodation. We all stayed with nanaji. But within a year, he had cleared the loan, saved some too, and moved out on his own on rent.

Some of my growing-up memories include the time when we bought our first second-hand car (which was a total disaster by the way… it always broke-down at this particular place in the city… and we used to find that absolutely HILARIOUS!) and then how we came to know that Maruti 800 was in for a major price hike, so my Dad immediately pulled out all his savings, and went to Lucknow (‘coz the bookings were already closed in Kanpur) and came back with this emerald colored shiny new car for 70 grand! (It was the 2nd model of Maruti 800 btw, and yes, 70 grand meant all our savings back then!) Then I remember when we got our first black-&-white TV, and then a few years later, a colored Onida. Then a VCR… and eventually a Samurai video game too! So many other things followed. Even added a room to the original 1BHK place we were staying in (with permission from the landlord of course)!

We grew up – together - as a family. We watched each other grow – the people in the house, as well as the things in the house! We were there to applaud my Dad for his achievements; we were there to rejoice in his victories with him. It felt so special! (It was probably like the way you guys feel now, being a part of this constantly evolving blog!) What I’m trying to say in short is that you don’t need to be perfect for being loved. And that you don’t need to wait for your life to become perfect before you start sharing it with your loved ones.

My Dad was able to leave everything behind in Patna and start from scratch, not because he had faith in himself, but because Mom had faith in him. Sometimes we need to step beyond our own self-limiting doubts and believe those who love us… who believe in us! Because love is not about being perfect… love is about being the best we can be! Love is about growing together, and about caring and sharing… the good times as well as the bad ones! Love is so simple… why do we need to make it so complicated?