Why People Shout in Anger!

A friend posted this short fable on his blog recently. I realized I had to share it with my blog readers too.

A saint asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger? Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because we lose our calm, we shout for that.'

'But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the saint. 'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?'

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other through that great distance.'

Then the saint asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...'

The saint continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.

MORAL 2: If you ever find such a person in life who never shouts at you, even if badly hurt by you, hold him/her with both hands, for that person loves you like no other!

Back… with a BANG!

Ok fellas! So I’m back on Orkut! For the fourth time! :-D Can’t say for how long though! Ha ha ha! But it sure looks different now… with all those "horrible-to-the-eye" themes!

It feels different too this time… feels much safer! No one but my “friends” can see my contact info or my scrapbook. No one but my “friends” can leave scraps for me in fact! And same with the photos I add in my album… not that I have added any yet! I’m happy with this straw pumpkin as my “DP”… even if it is blonde! [ROTFL] And for those of you who don’t know what “DP” stands for… it means “Display Picture”! :-D

One of my school friends’ scrapped me saying it was good to see me there & that it seemed to him that I was more active on Facebook… if you call playing Biggest Brain, PuzzleBee & KickAss being active! Anyway, I told him that Orkut and I were like 2 people in a bad relationship… can’t live with each other, can’t live without too! :-D He he… and so we keep “breaking off” every few months! :-p

Let’s see how long we can make it through this time around! The enhanced security features should be able to give me the space I need. Besides, unlike my previous stints with this platform, this time I have decided to be very selective about my “company”… and not go about subscribing to tens of different communities and adding friends left & right!

Only the most privileged people are getting entry into my “friend list” this time, which, btw, includes all my school friends by default, ‘coz they will always have a special place in my heart… even if I’m meeting them for the first time after like 13 years now! It’s amazing how you always feel so close to your childhood buddies! Even if you have nothing common to talk about after so many years, the bond is still there! Funny really!

Anyways, I found a workaround for those awful themes too – it gives an option under the settings to “disable themes” completely. So I can view all Orkut profiles in the classic, “friendly-to-the-eyes” blue theme now. Blue, btw, is also my favorite color! :-D

Oh and you want to know what my friend replied to that relationship thing mentioned above? He said that relationships aren’t bad… only the times are! :-D Pretty philosophical, eh! :-D

Today's Horoscope...

Your horoscope for March 23, 2009

Goals that may have seemed unreachable lately
are finally starting to come into focus, KS.
It could be that you have been neglecting your
dreams because every time you address them,
they only seem to move backward.
Have faith that your luck is starting to turn around.
Be patient and you will find that even your
wildest fantasies will start to come to fruition.

Memorabilia-VI: United We Stand

Another childhood favorite... funny video... funny nasal accent!

Ennnnjoyyyyy! :-)

"Ek Aur Anek"

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Memorabilia-V: The *Man* Smell

A smell...

... with which I grew up...

... & which never fails to turn me on!...

My Dad used this for as long as I can remember. I say "used" because he stopped using this when we left Kanpur... don't know why though.

I loved this smell so much that, every now and then, I used to pick up this bottle from the shelf in the bathroom (where Dad kept it)... bring its nozzle close to my nose... and ummmmmm... smell it!

Strangely, I don't see any guys of my generation (or the ones after me) using this particular after-shave now! I wonder why! :-/

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Here's more in Memorabilia!

Maa - si...

Today my aunt called after a long long time! The same one I wrote about earlier on this blog – my mom’s younger sister in Kanpur. I think I spoke to her after like 4 months today – she had been keeping her cell phone switched off constantly since I went to Delhi last summer. I managed to get hold of her once, sometime towards the end of November last year, but then she disappeared again after that!

She told me today that her phone had conked out on her and that she had to get a new phone eventually. She sounded pretty normal on the phone – was relaxed and in a sort of humorous mood! Even suggested I should “try my hand at marriage now”… which was a complete surprise coming from her, ‘coz she has been so anti-marriage throughout the last 2 years I’ve been interacting with her!

Anyways, I told her that I had already started the groom hunt on various matrimonial sites. And then she told me that my uncle (her husband) had “asked her out” several times in the last few months. (The 2 of them have been staying separately for the last so many years now, ‘coz of her illness!)

She said she hasn’t yet gone out with him. Like I mentioned in my previous post, she has stepped out of her house like maybe 4 times in the last 4 years! So she wasn’t able to gather enough courage to go out till now! But she said she’ll agree next time he asks! Sounded all excited about it! I’ll bet she’s wondering about what to wear! :-D

It felt good talking to her again. And it felt even better to find out that her personal life is also improving now along with her health! She’s my mom’s real sister… and well, I know it sounds a bit silly and all that, but she kind of feels like the last remaining link to my mom’s spirit! I mean, she’s always loved us the same – my sis & me that is – as if we were her own children! She was the only “family” who was there for us when mom died. She’s the one who taught me how to cook and stuff!

In fact, a few weeks ago, I was talking to my Dad and was telling him about the kind of wedding I wanted. I told him I didn’t want a big wedding with loads of relatives and all that – just some signatures in the local registrar’s office would do, followed by the traditional “feras” in a temple maybe… and I told him I wished Mausi (the same Aunt) would be well enough by then to come for my wedding and do the “kanyadaan”! Frankly speaking, I simply CANNOT imagine anyone else taking my mom’s place in the so many wedding-related-rituals that the bride’s mom is supposed to perform!

Anyways… all that is still a distant dream! Let’s hope she’s able to go out with uncle this time around… and that they have a good time together… again, after so many years!

Memorabilia-IV: Re-visiting Childhood

I'm such a "prose" kind of person, it's not everyday that I find myself going "WOW" over a piece of poetry! A poem has to really "touch" me somewhere in order for me to appreciate it.

And one such poem, ("Poetry" in fact, for it's an insult to call something so beautiful as merely "a poem"!) that has managed to stand out in my mind for over 20 years now, is Subhadra Kumari Chauhan's "Mera Naya Bachpan"!

I recited this in the school elocution at the age of 10 or 11 (I don't remember exactly which year) and I fell in love with it the first time I read it! I'm still as much in love with it as I was then!

Found it on Google again...

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There's Something About The Way You "Smile" Tonight...

We used to do this psychology test back in school... and one of the questions in that test was - "Which is your favorite animal and give 3 reasons why?"

My answer was "An elephant"... and one of the 3 reasons why I liked elephants was that "they have such a cute and adorable smile"!

My friends found this really funny! They used to ask me how did I know whether the elephant's smile was "cute and adorable" or not... and that when did I actually get to see an elephant SMILING!

I had no answer to that! Nobody believed that elephants smiled! But I could clearly visualize in my mind the picture of a smiling elephant! My parents said they'd never ever taken me to visit a "smiling elephant" either... in all my life! Anyways...

Today, this picture came up in my webshots screensaver software...

See... it's a baby elephant... and if THAT ain't a SMILE on his muddy, wrinkly, gray face... I'll change my name to "KKadambari"!

He he he! He's so cute, isn't he? :-D I just love baby elephants! There were 3 of them in Hatari! Funny creatures! He he he! Always make me laugh! He he he! :-D

Fear: A Motivating Factor?

Yesterday I did some catching up with an old school friend of mine. We were very close yes, but then sort of drifted apart after she got married & I started working for Dell. Yesterday, she told me about her father-in-law. Oh btw, let’s call her “XYZ” ok… & her father-in-law “FIL”!

So she told me how her FIL had developed some kind of heart problem… not exactly heart-attack, it was more of Angina pain only, but, he would get stressed out with the slightest bit of physical activity… a 2 minutes walk or 10 steps up the stairs would leave him completely red in the face, panting & gasping for breath!

The doctors said he was bordering the “danger zone”. She mentioned something called a TMT test, which had to be conducted… & which recommended a further Angioscopy to be done on him. I’m not very familiar with the medical terminology, but she said that the TMT measured “something” while he “walked” and the Angioscopy required “something” to be inserted into his body, to do “something something” in there!

Her FIL is apparently extremely scared of doctors and hospitals & stuff… & he completely freaked out when they started to inject that “something” for the Angioscopy in the hospital! He broke out in cold sweat, almost fainted… & simply wouldn’t let them give the injection! Eventually, he just jumped out of the bed & came back home! Fell severely sick for sometime, until he was finally pressurized into going again for the Angioscopy!

But guess what! Again the same thing happened! He still couldn’t go through the required procedure, and came back home from the hospital! Obviously, the whole family was after him, trying to get it across to him that the Angioscopy HAD TO BE DONE! My friend was also pushing him for it. But he just couldn’t gather the nerves to go through it!

Now this was over 3 years ago. Back in those days, there was this weird craze about Baba Ramdev and his Pranayam & Yoga! It was like the “talk of the town” back then! Everywhere you went, people had nothing else to talk about other than “Do you do Kapal-Bhati regularly?” It was the latest “in thing” back then!

My friend told me that her FIL had also been advised by hundreds of “well-wishers” to do the “Pranayams”, but, like most other mortals, he just couldn’t get around to “doing” it regularly! She said he’d start on it after every few weeks or so… do it for a minute or two, with half his heart into it, and then just leave it! But this time it was different.

This time, it was either “do the thing” OR “go through the Angioscopy”! And he was just so scared of having something foreign injected into his body, that he apparently decided he’d rather do the former! He asked for 3 months time from the family, got up early next morning, took his car, went to the neighborhood park, and started doing Anulom-Vilom. He’d watch Baba Ramdev’s show in the evening and do the simple stuff next day in the morning.

After a few days, someone else from the neighborhood sat down next to him in the park & started doing the Pranayams too. Then a third guy joined them. And a few more followed suit. Eventually, there was a huge group of over 15 odd people, all doing Pranayam in that park every morning. And this FIL was implicitly made their “acting Yoga teacher”.

Big responsibility, right! My friend told me her FIL would sit down every evening in front of the TV, with a pad & pen in his hand, making notes for the “class” the next morning! ‘Coz earlier he was only doing it for himself, but now he had to answer other people’s questions too… so he had to be prepared for it! The others all depended on him!

Three months later, they had the TMT done again… everything was perfectly normal, Angioscopy was NOT required anymore! It’s been over 3 years now. The FIL is healthier and happier. The “Yoga Club” has become official now & holds a “kitty party” on the 1st of every month. The FIL is the President of this club, being the senior-most member of the group and also the person who actually “started it all”.

The club consists of people from various walks of life, including the Commissioner of Police & the likes! And they all highly respect my friend’s FIL. The entire family’s social status has improved! They have acquired “contacts” with high-standing individuals and families! And the best part is… the family’s internal relationships have changed so drastically!

The same FIL, until a few years ago, was an extremely cranky and suspicious kind of person. Always picking up fights with everyone, couldn’t trust even his own kids and wife! He had actually told his wife, his younger son & my friend (married to the younger son) to leave his house! My friend, her hubby & her MIL stayed separately… and the FIL stayed with his elder son & DIL! Things were so extreme back then! But with regular Pranayam, his whole personality changed, she said! The family is united once again, the business has also improved and now the FIL is after my friend… so that she also starts doing daily Pranayams! :-D

The most amazing thing in this whole incident is the fact that the FIL’s “FEAR of doctors & hospitals” was so powerful that it actually managed to cure him of his heart ailments! Some motivation!