Expect / Accept

Two of the most confusing words in the English language - "Expect" and "Accept".

From the time I was in mid-school, I have seen and heard dozens of people mixing them up unconsciously... using "expect" where they wanted to say "accept" and saying "accept" when they meant "expect"!

Befuddling, I must say!

The chaos they create is not even limited to the English language! These two words have the entire human race caught up in knots and tangles!

If you EXPECT... you are heading for disappointments, miseries, resentments, dissatisfaction & unhappiness.

If you ACCEPT instead... you have only joy, contentment, peace, love & happiness.


For a moment, I wondered if I should give... but then I realized - "his expectations are higher, I will not be able to meet them... and he won't be able to accept what I CAN give him"...


To Expect or To Accept ???

No Inspiration to Blog

Exams are starting from the 1st of December.

Not that I'm using that as an excuse for not to blog. It's just that I'm enjoying studying (?!?!?!) so much currently that anything else feels like a totally unwanted distraction!

I did start on a post in fact... and Neelabh is living proof that I did 'coz I was chatting with him at the time... but I lost the inclination to complete it a little more than half way through the post!

Hopefully, like all other things in life, this phase too shall pass soon! And I will be back!

Healing The Past

After I returned from Delhi, I made a Crystal Grid to heal my past… my early teenage years to be precise, ‘coz the family life had been really disturbed back then.

It was the period in which I had been overtaken by some major fear of abandonment, as I have narrated in one of my previous posts “Fear”. In fact, I started wearing eye-glasses soon after I returned from that trip! I developed breathing problems less than a year later. I also started spending a lot of time with “my invisible friend in the bathroom”.

Oh and I became a lot more social in school too! I remember I used to be an extremely introvert kid in the junior school. I had practically no friends. I was famous as “mean, rude and stingy”!

Mean and rude because I told people directly at their face if they did something wrong! I remember once one of the girls told me she cheated in a test because everyone did so, and I instantly snapped at her, asking “if everyone were to jump off into the well, would you do that too?” Needless to say, she avoided me for quite a few days after that!

And I was stingy because I wouldn’t “lend and forget”! Whether it was money that some classmate borrowed from me, or one of my books (I had a very good collection of story books, comics and novels right from childhood)… I never forgot to ask them to return it when it was time for them to do so!

But I don’t think it ever bothered me that time whether I had any friends or not! I guess I was just too peaceful in my own world, full of high ideals and principles. I remember I even used to tell the girls not to pluck leaves unnecessarily from the trees, as we passed under them while crossing through the school grounds, because they also had life and they also felt pain! I was scary, wasn’t I? :-D

Anyways… these things changed too in my early teens. It’s almost as if there was a complete personality change. I became a completely different person! From a die-hard introvert, I was suddenly the most out-going and most friendly person in the class! But at home, I was yet another person, with a third personality I guess! Always at my nerves’ ends! Always fearful! Always lonely! Strange!

Well, I seemed to remember more and more incidents from those years as I continued on the past healing. I had made an intent slip and placed it under the grid. And then I had tried to visualize myself at that age and sent Reiki to that image.

I’m not very sure it went that well though... (I feel I should dig out an old photograph of mine instead, and send some more healing to myself through that!)… but one thing I did feel was that the 13-year-old-me knew that she was being sent love from across time and space! She knew that somebody, from some different time and place, was urging her to fight through her current situation… and so she didn’t give up!

But is that really true? Do people really have a connection with themselves along the different points in the time and space continuum? Is that why I learnt Reiki in fact? ‘Coz some part of me was aware of how I would need it and use it in the different time points?

In fact, let’s just forget about Reiki for a minute! Let’s just talk about plain and simple love! When we look at an old photograph of someone, and smile fondly remembering how he was at that age, does that person receive that love in the time & space he was at in that photograph?

If the answer to the above is yes, then shouldn’t we make it a part of our daily routine to go through all the old photo albums in our house, stopping over random photographs and sending them love/Reiki?

Hmmmm. I think I should try this experiment. I made an exclusive photo album of my pictures a few years ago. And I did steal some old black and white pics from the common family album too, to put them in my personal album! So I guess this album should have pics of me at more-or-less all ages! (If not, then I guess I’ll just have to steal some more pics! No big deal!) And then I could just flip through the pages of this album, sending Reiki to myself through random pictures. Or maybe I could simply Reiki the entire album at one go! Hmmmmm… I need to try this…

Sentimental Idiots, Smart Guys!

Couple of days ago, I posted a joke someone had forwarded to me, on the “ongoing battle of the sexes”… “Mars And Venus At War... Again!” Today, I feel the urge to add some of my own personal “gyaan” to it!

That joke ended on the line “Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either... but at least she knows I'm smarter than her.

Now we all know that the most important thing for men is sex – it’s something that drives them, motivates them, and even compels them to make complete fools of themselves at times!

So if anybody were to ask me, I’d say “a smart man is one who secures for himself an opportunity to have sex every night (and even every DAY if possible!)… for he is smart enough to get what he wants most!

In that case then, how was the man in the joke smart? On the contrary, I’d say he was stupid enough to hit the axe on his own foot for 2 days in a row! He could have handled the situation really smartly… and emerged as the perfect winner, without his girlfriend even knowing that he had won! How?

Well, just as we all know that men can think of little else when they think of sex, same way we also know that women are born sentimental idiots! And surely, with that knowledge in our hands (or in our minds rather!), it ought to be a piece of cake to make them dance to our tunes!

(I use the term “our” above to denote the collective brotherhood of all the human males inhabiting the earth... even though I'm not a male!)

Let me explain this to you with the help of an example – a real life incident.

Once upon a time, there was a Sentimental-Idiot (read: “girl”) who had just arrived from the US to India. She had 3 old school friends in the Delhi NCR region, with whom she had planned to spend a couple of days before she moved on to her family’s residence in Pune. And, like all foreign-returned-Indians, she was also carrying a whole bag of foreign chocolates which were not easily available in India at the time.

She stayed at the residence of the only female among those 3 friends, but, the chocolates had to be kept at one of the guys’ place, as he was the only one among the 3 who had a fridge in his house back then!

After 2-3 days of fun and frolic, it was time for her to head on to Pune. And obviously, being foreign returned, she had a lot of luggage with her. The friend who owned the fridge also owned a car, but it could only accommodate him, the Sentimental-Idiot and her luggage… along with the smashing, highly expensive and pretty bulky speakers that he had installed with the music system in his car!

So the Sentimental-Idiot's female friend and the other guy friend decided to follow them in an auto-rikshaw to the Nizzamuddin railway station, where she was supposed to catch her train from.

The friend-who-owned-the-car picked her & her luggage from the female friend’s place and left for the station. The female friend and the other guy friend took an auto and also headed for the station. Half-way to the station, the female friend remembered that they had left the chocolates in the fridge of the friend-who-owned-the-car! Obviously, there wasn’t enough time to go back to the house and get the chocolates.

Now what the Smart-Guy in the auto did was that he immediately phoned the flat-mate of the other Smart-Guy (the friend-who-owned-the-car) and requested him to bring the packet of chocolates from the fridge to the Nizzamuddin station. (This flat-mate had a motor-bike.) He then called up the other Smart-Guy and informed him of the situation.

This other Smart-Guy decided not to mention anything to the Sentimental-Idiot sitting next to him in the car, for he was not sure whether his flat-mate would be able to make it to the station in time or not… and he didn’t want the Sentimental-Idiot to go sentimental over the loss of her chocolates until it was absolutely necessary for her to do so!

As luck would have it, the flat-mate reached the station just in time! The Sentimental-Idiot was informed about this whole business once the 2 Smart-Guys had confirmed (by cellphones of course) that they would be able to get the chocolates to her before her train left. Obviously, the Sentimental-Idiot … being the Sentimental-Idiot that she was… went completely mental with the tide of sentiments washing over her, when she got to know about the “pains” taken by the Smart-Guys to re-unite her with her precious chocolates -- the proof of her return from a foreign land!

She got completely carried away with that strong tidal flow of emotions, and ended up giving fistfuls of chocolates to all of us, instead of the 2-piece-each as she’d planned earlier! Now think… if it had been her boyfriend instead of her friends who’d gone to such lengths for her, he would have undoubtedly been the luckiest man on earth that night!

Coming back to that joke I posted earlier... you know something! If I had been the guy in that joke, I wouldn’t have gone without sex for even a single night! I would have convinced the girl then & there… the very first night… that I loved her for all the so many little things she did for me OUTSIDE the bedroom and that sex was not important to me at all! (I mean let’s face it… for centuries, people said that the Sun moved around the Earth, but, did that make it actually come true? No… right?)

What I’m trying to say is that we all (and I mean both - the men and the women!) know what’s really important, after everything is said and done! So if the Sentimental-Idiot wants to pretend otherwise for a few minutes, to subside whatever temporary emotional disturbances she might be going through at the time, what’s the harm in playing along with her! As it is, the net outcome at the end will always be highly in favor of the Smart-Guys… because of the “exchange rate” between Mars and Venus!

Didn’t understand this point? Ok let me explain with another example.

Let’s say I have a friend in the US. And let’s say that friend gifts me something worth $10. For him, that’s just a bit of change, but, for me, here in India, it is equivalent to 500 bucks! And that’s a pretty significant amount of money for me! So automatically, I would try to complete the “energy exchange” by giving him something that carries as much weightage for him as 500 bucks do for me! You’re getting the idea now?

Women are always ALWAYS so predictable! Regardless of whether they are ambitious or not, career-oriented or domestic, belong to the fast city-life or to a small laid-back town… deep down they all remain the same Sentimental-Idiots! And they can ALWAYS be trusted to behave in the most emotional way possible in any given situation (… whether in favor of you or against you… depends upon how YOU handle the situation)!

In fact, I would say that the independent variety of women, which is becoming more and more common these days, is even easier to please than the traditional housewifely kind! Reason: these modern women are just so used to doing everything on their own and fighting all their battles alone that even the smallest gesture of care and concern for them will carry a lot LOT of value in their eyes! A surprise call, an unexpected visit, a couple of flowers stolen from the neighbor’s garden… anything out-of-the-blue really, as long as it is pleasant!

However, the irony in this whole thing is that men steadfastly refuse to see what is right in front of their eyes! They keep saying it is not possible to understand women, whereas the truth is that there really is nothing to understand about us! We are all just plain and simple Sentimental-Idiots! Period. How can you expect emotions to follow any kind of logic or reason? All you can do is learn to make them sway in your favor!

And you know – it’s not just about sex either! Keeping the women in your life happy (all of them in fact, and not just your bed partner) yields far more important and greater benefits than just sex!

A happy woman thinks happy, and she obviously includes you in her happy thoughts too, because you’re the one who inspired that happiness in her at that time! And being a hopelessly *sentimental* idiot, she FEELS equally happy too! Happy thoughts, combined with happy feelings, make the most powerful prayers for everyone included in those thoughts!

By the simple Law of Attraction, a happy woman tends to create more happiness for herself, and all those around her! Happy women are like the most powerful guardian angels for all their near and dear ones!

Happy mothers help their kids pass their exams with flying colors. Happy female colleagues in the office create more peaceful, productive and satisfying work environments. Happy wives, subconsciously, clear the path to success and prosperity for their hubbies.

In short, a happy woman simply draws more of that towards herself, which makes her happy… just by the infinite power of her idiotic *sentiments*... which men so fear! A Smart-Guy, however, would know exactly how to make her strong mood-swings work FOR him rather than AGAINST him, because every "emotional down" of a woman is an opportunity for him to "score" big with her!

And that is why they say that “behind the success of every man, there is a woman".

But if you were to ask me, I'd say that “behind the success of every SMART man, there is a SENTIMENTAL woman"!

Picture Credit: http://doodlewala.blogspot.in/

Cadbury's Dairy Milk Ad

Loved this ad when I was a kid!

Finally found it again! Yayyyyy !!!

And here's the Hindi version...

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Mars And Venus At War... Again!

Somebody forwarded me this mail a little while ago... felt like sharing it with my blog readers too! :-D

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.


One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion started to heat up and she eventually said: 'I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me.'

I said, 'WHAT??!! What was that?!'

So she said the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear... 'You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough, for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.'

She responded to my puzzled look by saying: 'Can't you just love me for who I am and not for what I do for you in the bedroom?'

Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

The very next day I opted to take the day off work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said: 'Lets get a pair for each outfit.'

We went on to the jewelery department, where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me, because she asked for a tennis bracelet, when she doesn't even know how to play tennis! I think I threw her for a loop when I said: 'That's fine, honey.'

She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said: 'I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier.'

I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, 'No honey, I don't feel like it.'

Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled 'WHAT?'

I then said: 'Honey! I want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough, for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.'

And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, 'Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?'

Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either... but at least she knows I'm smarter than her.

I'll bet this joke was originally created by a female... 'coz there ARE NO MEN in this world who can think of that smart a retort! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! :-))

I Hate It...

I hate it when people (those I really care for) specifically consult me... involve me in their entire research and decision-making process (which spanned for over 6 months in this case!)... regarding something I specialize in... and in the end, go and do the exact opposite of what I told them to!

Why waste so much of my time then?

Wish I had a boxing-bag in my house... or perhaps Harry Potter's wand... so I could mute my voice temporarily... and just... SCREEEEAAAAMMMMMM !!!

Being In Love...

Flowers. Hearts. Candles. Chocolates. The color pink.

All symbols of love from eternity.

We may pretend that we are practical and hence, are over and above such symbolic expressions of love.

We may proclaim that only teenagers need to demonstrate love by such things.

We may argue that communication of genuine love is not dependent on such material/tangible substitutes.

I agree.

And yet, I cannot deny the fact that every time someone gifts me some flowers, it lightens up my whole face!

I cannot deny that the color pink makes me feel like I want to hug someone -- ANYone!

I cannot deny that heart-shaped balloons, cakes, candies, photo-frames, lockets and other little odd things DO bring a smile on my lips!

I cannot deny that the sight of beautiful scented candles, in Archies galleries and various other gift shops, warms my heart with the hope that someday, someone would gift me a huge pink one! (Although I guess that "someone" will have to be me eventually!)

And I cannot deny that I jump up & down in excitement and give loud squeals of delight (exactly like my 2-year-old darling Krishu!) at the sight of a chocolate in my father's hand, when he comes back home in the evening!

So much for being practical!

But you know what... there is one thing missing in the above picture... a teddy bear! That's another one of my long-time wishes... associated with love of course... that someday, someone would gift me a large, cuddly, life-size teddy bear! (I'm sure THAT "someone" will also be me eventually! :-D)

Why do we need to be so practical and "grown up" all the time?

Clutter Clearing

I removed some games from my sidebar - Tic Tac Toe, Collapse and Sudoku.

I haven't felt any inclination/desire to play them, after the first day (when I set them up here)... so I figured that others might not be interested in them either.

And the Master Mind game is not showing up correctly on my blog - or at least it isn't on my PC. I'm going to wait for another couple of days to see if it starts working fine, or else I'll remove that one too.

Apart from that, I'm extremely busy with studies. I will keep blogging though... as irregularly as I always do... but I doubt I'll be online for chat much. Of course, I can always be reachable via email!

That's all for today... see you when I see you...

PuzzleBee Jigsaw Puzzle: Food Cycle

You think food can only be eaten! Think again !!!

Here's another creative jigsaw puzzle from the PuzzleBee app on Facebook. A bicycle made of real food!

I am sure you'll enjoy solving this one!

PuzzleBee Jigsaw Puzzle: Food Cycle

Here' the other jigsaw puzzle from PuzzleBee... "The Artist's Eye"!

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Memorabilia-III: A *Shitty* Poem

This post is in continuation with 2 of my previous posts - "Memorabilia-I" and "Memorabilia-II".

It's a poem written by a friend of a friend back in the good-ol' school days! I liked this poem so much when I read it for the first time, that I copied it in my diary. My friend Dutta asked me, in 2003 sometime, whether I still had this poem. Apparently, both she and her friend (who originally wrote this poem) had lost it. But I was working in Delhi at that time and didn't have my diary with me. After that, I guess we both forgot about it.

But I remember now. And I also have my diary with me now. And, more importantly, I think it's time now to finally put this poem up on the www!

Alas... this poem is also in Hindi! So not all of my blog readers will be able to enjoy it! :-( Sorry friends! For the rest of you... here it is!

वोह जो गिरा था नम,
उमड़ रहा था जो तूफ़ान, थोडा गया थम

पिछले 4-5 दिनों से था constipation,
पर अब हो गया है एकदम नरम-नरम

हालाँकि हुई है अभी भी बहुत कम,
लेकिन उम्मीद पर है दुनिया कायम

जैसे थोड़ी हुई है, वैसे ही होगी और ज्यादा,
और बेकार में टेंशन लेने से क्या फाएदा

कल देखना, लगा देंगे ढेर पे ढेर,
थोड़ी बहुत नहीं, करेंगे सेर-सवा-सेर

वैसे तो है इसका बड़ा सीधा सा काएदा
सुबह खली पेट चूरन की गोली करती है फाएदा

उसके बाद पेट को दबा कर, उचक कर बैठो
और पूरे बदन को ताकत लगा लगा कर ऐंठो

उसके बाद देखो कैसे फिसल के निकल आएगी
चारों ओर सुगंध ही सुगंध फैलाएगी

पर कल उसने हमें बड़ा था दुःख दिया
जबकि कितने गिलास इसबगोल भी था पिया

पर कमबख्त एक टुकड़ा भी नहीं निकला
जबकि ताकत लगा कर पूरा बदन दिया था हिला

बड़ी ताकत लगायी थी, किया था जतन
फिर भी आँखें तरस गयी, देखने को वह अल्मोल रतन

पर छोड़ो भी - जो बीत गयी, वो बात गयी
दुःख और तकलीफ से वो रात गयी

हो सकता है आपको ये बातें लगें खराब
पर जिसपर गुज़रती है, वही जानता है जनाब

एक दिन पेट साफ हो, तो पता चलता है
पूरा दिन कैसे बेचैनी से निकलता है

बार-बार लगता है - कुछ तो नज़र आये
दो-चार गुट्टे, कुछ बूँदें ही टपक जाएँ

भगवान करे इस तरह कभी आपका दिल टूटे
ज़रा सी ताकत लगायें और भक-भका के छूटे

चलो अब उठकर हाथ धो आयें
आप सब के साथ हैं मेरी दुआएं

फिर भी कभी अगर आये कोई अड़चन
पढ़ लीजियेगा ये कविता और pressure जाएगा बन

भचाक से निकलेगी, ये है मेरी guarantee
मेरी, आपकी, और हम सबकी प्यारी ______ !!!

. . .

Here's more in Memorabilia and in Poetry!

More Games On My Blog

I have added 2 more games on the sidebar of my blog.

One is the age-old "Tic-Tac-Toe". I don't need to explain it I suppose. A tip: When you play against the computer, you will get the first move every alternate game. Try to secure a corner spot. The computer will most probably play in the opposite corner (at least that's how it's been playing against me constantly!)... and then you need to play your move in one of the remaining free corners. The computer will fill the middle box in that line, to prevent you from winning. But in the next turn, if you take the center square of the board, you will create a "double-win" situation! There's no way the computer can beat you after that! Enjoy! :-D

The other game I've added is "Flood-It!" As the name suggests, you have to flood the board with just one color... and you have to do so in less than 25 moves. Starting from the top-left corner, you simply keep changing into one of the adjacent colors. The trick is to change into those colors which are in bigger blocks or units. My best so far is 19 moves, in this game. See if you can beat it! :-D

Stay tuned for the next post - "Memorabilia III - A *Shitty* Poem".


Removed both the game... Tic-Tac-Toe was too boring and the Flood-It gadget stopped working.

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Fun On My Blog!

This is an FYI for all my readers who have subscribed to my blog in some RSS feed reader.

I know you guys don't visit my blog anymore -- as you read all my new posts through your RSS managers. So I'm writing this post only to inform you all that I have added some cool new game gadgets in the sidebar of my blog. And you are all invited to check them out! :-)

There's "Color junction" - a new game I found in the list of the gadgets offered by Blogger. You have to combine the color droplets in 2 or more of the same color, and then remove them from the board. The target is to empty the board completely, which I haven't been able to achieve yet. :-p

Then there is the classic "Master Mind" which brought back some long forgotten childhood memories! I used to play this game (the real board version; not the digital one!) with my sis ages ago, when we were still in Kanpur -- must be like over 15 years ago!

And there is also another classic - the Solitaire game in which you have to jump the pegs over each other to remove them from the board, until only 1 is left in the center. I found a "Marbles" version of it, instead of the original "Pegs". I have the original pegs game in real though - it's a part of the legacy which my father has already bequeathed to me! :-D (Remember I mentioned in my "Diwali cleaning" post that at times when we really took a fancy to something we discovered in the "treasure hunt", our parents would gift it to us!)

Then lastly there is "Sudoku" and "Collapse."

I played "Collapse" for the first time on yahoo messenger 7, back in 2004. My sister and I used to compete for high-scores in it! We also played BounceOut, TextTwist and Pop'N'Drop on yahoo messenger. But with the version 8 of yahoo messenger, all these single player games were removed. Or maybe they weren't, but we weren't able to find them again!

And "Sudoku" of course was brought into my life by the TOI daily! For a very long time, this puzzle game was my only reason for picking up a newspaper with my morning tea! I was so crazy about it in fact, that I used to end up fighting with my Dad for the newspaper!

I wanted to put "Mahjongg" also on my blog, but I couldn't find a good enough gadget for it. All the available gadgets of this game are too wide for my blog's sidebar... and it's no fun playing the game when you have to keep scrolling to the left or the right! The smaller ones are so small that you aren't even able to differentiate between the pieces! So no Mahjongg for the time being.

I'm still hunting for other cool gadgets in the list... there are over 3000 in the "Fun & Games" category. So it's gonna take some time. Please keep checking my blog for updates every few days. And feel free to get addicted to the games already added! :-p


I eventually removed all these games from the sidebar, in order to reduce page load time, and instead put them all in their separate posts. Some games were removed, some new ones added. For the most up-to-date list of all games here, please check the menu bar on the top of the blog. Alternatively, just search for Games!

Blame It On the Moon!

Your Moon is in Aquarius

On the day you were born, the Moon was in Aquarius. Your emotions can be very erratic and unpredictable, and you may feel one way in the morning, change around lunchtime, and then feel altogether differently by the time the evening rolls around. You have an enormous amount of humanitarian feelings and desires and believe you were put here on Earth to help your fellow man and woman - and you do your best to make that belief a reality.

Here's more in "Who-Am-I"!