"Total Responsibility"

I was recently forwarded an email by a fellow healer and would like to share it here, for I believe that, unlike those "chain mails" with pictures of Sai-baba, or Jesus Christ or Ganesha or any of the other millions of Gods, this particular forwarded email actually has the ability to change the world around us.


by Joe Vitale

Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.

However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do.

Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does--but that's wrong.

The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist.

He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.

Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit. "Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.'

I was in awe. 'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.'

This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'

'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life--simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.

This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho'oponopono means loving yourself.

If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.

I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?

'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again,' he explained.

That's it?

'That's it.'

Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.

Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.

This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you,' I didn't say it to anyone in particular.. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying 'I love you,' I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

I later attended a ho'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.

He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

'What about the books that are already sold and out there?' I asked.

'They aren't out there,' he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. 'They are still in you.' In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves.

Suffice It to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love.


On an ending note, would like to quote Eric Robins, MD...

"Some day the medical profession will wake up and realize that unresolved emotional issues are the main cause of 85% of all illnesses."

This is so true, but, more about this in my next post... so stay with me...

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Shreesh said...

I read about HO'OPONOPONO in Life positive. The story that you are reffering to is also published in one of the books of "Chicken Soul For the Soul" This is Exact the same approach Mahatma Gandhi took. He fasted for his cleanse to that the insane riots between seikhes and hindus and muslims should stop. And the riots actully stopped.
I feel this is what Shri Bhagwan ment when he said that biggest help will happen to humanity when you your self would get enlightined.So don't worry about the people around that much and focus on your own innner development.
MY friend Rocky is doing the same experiment for the past 3 months with 2 people. I dont know his success rate..but when i broadcasted my apologies and forgiveness and i asked that plz let me know when its accepted..within a week something happened, I got a visit from a very old friend turned foe to friend again.
next month i did that again coz it was shown on the lecher antenna scale that i needed to do it and LO within a week another thing happened..I KNOW THIS WORKS.
In Love and Light

Anonymous said...

Hi kads,
Awesome healing process. That reminds me of the experience that Swami Nithyananda felt when he was enlightened. He could feel himself both outside and inside his skin. He could feel himself in the trees, the grass, the animals and everything around him. He was not able to eat food for three days because he felt the food was also a part of him !! I see a striking similarity in his speech and the healing process you mentioned. I can see that God or a universal higher power exists in each and every individual (like drops of water form a ocean) and if you can realize that power within yourself then you can read/realize/understand everybody and everything around you because it is all a part of you. It shows that the paths may be varied but the final goal is the same.

Kaddu said...

@ Anon - "He could feel himself both outside and inside his skin."

Well, I have become pretty used to the feeling that I'm not really ME. it used to feel pretty weird initially, but now I guess I've just accepted it!

I would be talking nonsense to my dad or my sis on phn - n suddenly this thot wud flash in my mind - "Non-stop bakwaas kar sakti ho!"

And yeah... the paths are varied but they all lead to the same mountain top!

Anonymous said...

Hi kaddu,
are u sure it is not multiple personality disorder? ;)

Kaddu said...

Whattt! U figured it out already? :O

But hey, did u HAVE to mention it out loud for the whole world to see?

;) :p

Anonymous said...

Oops, sorry kads :(, just go ahead and press the delete button.

Kaddu said...

Duhhh! What good will that do now! The damage is already done! :(

Anonymous said...

No kaddu, you might wanna do it now. Who knows - tomorrow if you become a celebrity blogger (like Amitabh) and many ppl access your blog archives ! Imagine the shock they will go through !!

Kaddu said...

He he! U need to chk out the comments section on AB's blog... it's too good!

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