Tuesday, April 4, 2017

A to Z of Happiness: C - Calmness #atozchallenge @AprilA2Z

Anxiety is a big sucker of happiness. It makes us lie awake at night, tossing and turning in bed, while millions of random thoughts stream through our mind. It keeps us in a mental hyper-drive throughout the day, eating away at our productivity and draining us out faster. It makes us fearful about things that will probably never happen. It steals all joy and wisdom from our present moment.



I have often looked at the Indian cricket team captain, M. S. Dhoni, with admiration. No matter what happens on the field during a match, he never has a trace of anxiety on his face. He remains as calm as the deepest part of an ocean, and that enables him to think out-of-the-box and take game-changing decisions, even in the midst of adversity.

How do we do that then? How do we maintain our inner calm when our external world is in a turmoil?

How To Remain Calm in Stressful Situations

Here are five techniques we can practice daily to inculcate the habit of remaining calm in stressful situations.

Regular Exercise

Exercise releases endorphins. They're the natural stress busters and mood boosters of our body. Exercise also results in deeper breathing, leading to more mindfulness. This helps in reducing feelings of anger and panic, and promoting a sense of calmness and well-being.

Enough Sleep

Good sleep is essential for beating anxiety. If we don't get proper sleep, we become more prone to stress. Even the slightest things can give us panic attacks. It becomes important, therefore, to ensure that our body gets complete rest while we sleep. Listening to soothing music helps a lot in this respect.

Cut the Caffeine

Caffeine and nicotine are stimulants. Yes, they keep us more alert, but they also exaggerate our stress response and disturb our sleep cycle. Excessive intake of either of these makes us more prone to anxiety. We need to minimize caffeine and nicotine if we want to remain more calm and centered.

Limit Negativity

If we expose ourselves more to negative people and negative environment, we become more easily stressed out. Watching the news at night might seem necessary, but it triggers the most negative chain of thoughts in our mind. Listening to someone rant for long periods of time may seem like the right thing to do, but it can create havoc with our own mental equilibrium.

Practice Detachment

We need to focus less on the outcome of our actions and more on the act of doing our best. What will happen will happen. We have no control on it. The only thing we can control is our response. So, in order to maintain this detachment, we need to learn how to distract our mind with stuff that make us feel good. We need to keep ourselves busy with activities we enjoy doing.


Anxiety need not always be a medical disorder. And it is most certainly not a permanent life state. You are not your anxiety. Brantley and Millstine describe it as "part of the present-moment experience [...] instead of as an absolute truth or an immutable personal defect."

If worrying can become a habit, so can remaining calm. Win or lose, pleasure or pain, joy or sorrow, we must remain calm and at peace with our circumstances and feelings. Acknowledge everything but don't let anything take over, and you have a recipe for happiness.

Do you get anxious at the drop of a hat? Or do you remain calm even when things are falling apart all around you? How do you keep your mind at peace in stressful situations?

This is my third post for AtoZ2017.

I have completed this challenge once before, and published it as a kindle ebook.
You can get it on amazon: A to Z of Blogging: Take Your Blog To the Next Level.

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97 comments:

Sue Loncaric said...

Love this Chicky! I have always been quite anxious but as I have grown older I am realising that life is too short to waste time on worry - especially if it is out of our control. Looking forward to D. Sue @Sizzling60 from
Sizzling Towards Sixty

Mera Era said...

Anxiety and me are in a long term relationship. Though I have mellowed down over the years, grown a lot calmer, but more so on the outside that I don't show how jittery I am on the inside.
I loved your little list and my biggest area of concern is learning to detach, but slowly I'm getting there :D

I am with you in being in awe with Dhoni for who he is and how he stays ice cool even in times of great stress.

Loved this post :D

My Era @theerailivedin
The Era I Lived In

Pinksocks said...

You said it, perfectly. :)
Anxiety is a stalker, it will cling on to you the moment you let down your guard.

Looking forward to the other posts.
Cheers,
[@womod] from
Pinksocks

Kala Ravi said...

Hey Chicky, please send me bucketfuls of that! I can't calm don, whatever I try! Maybe time to test the tricks you mention. I am in awe of those who stay calm and composed all through, Dhoni included! Cheers, KEEP CALM
@KalaRavi16 from
Relax-N-Rave

Vinodini Iyer said...

Guess all of us need these useful tips, Chicky. Each of us is plagued by anxiety and stress in this complicated world these days.

Leanne said...

I think this is something I've been learning over the last few years - be in the present and stop worrying about things that may never happen - it certainly helps keep my anxiety to a more manageable level :)
Leanne @ cresting the hill

Mithila Menezes said...

Detachment is something I really must try and do. Caffeine, well I'm allergic to coffee, so there's no question about that.
But how can we limit negativity when its all around?

Sunila Vig said...

Calm and peace are the most important to me I always think Chicky. Beautiful list of points and the Detachment point is so important for all of us, with people n things. Nice post:)

Rajlakshmi said...

Regular sleep is something I need badly. I admire Dhoni for his calmness on field, even while dodging question. That's something I guess you are born with :)

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Geets said...

You know as much as we try, we can always mitigate the effect, but worrying about something,it's always there. I don't know why but damn, it's always there. It never goes. I guess it's part of human system and how brain functions. It sucks, but it's the truth.

But yeah, a good conversation with a friend or a good sleep can really do the trick, don't you think?

Cheers
Geets

Tina Basu said...

Hey Chiki, I seriously need to know how to keep calm when the infant at home is going on banging his head and bumping in here and there
Tina from Twinkling Tina Cooks

Sheethal Susan Jacob said...

Perfect post for this era!!! Keep calm and be happy should be our mantra for stress free life!

Ramya Rao said...

Hi. I need a handful of it. I try to keep calm and yeah sometimes it does work out. Brilliant post.
I blog @ www.ramyaprao.blogspot.com

Srivi said...

At times I just can't stop worrying though I know nothing can be done about a situation. Hope I get out of this habit soon!

A great post with some good points esp the Detachment one!
Cheers,
Srivi
The Piscean Me | Twitter

Aathira said...

I'm someone who suffers from anxiety and I have been trying to deal it in my own way. I try to read or do something that I love when I'm stressed. Sometimes closing your eyes and just not thinking of anything helps too. Tried meditation a few times as well

the little princess said...

Ask me about it! Anxiety had almost put me into depression last month...And these pointers are very helpful...the most important being being detached. well written.

Shubhangi @ The Little Princess

Shilpa Garg said...

Very valid pointers! Cutting the negativity, whether negative thoughts or people, helps a great deal in maintaining mental peace and calm.

Nibhz said...

This was a much needed post when by the end of Monday you are totally exhausted! This Challenge is proving to be helpful in different ways!

Nibha @ Expressions

Catherine Green said...

Thank you very much for sharing such important reminders. I used to have anxiety, back when I worked a corporate job. Gradually I learned to overcome it with the use of meditation and breathing exercises. Now I try and help my close family and friends who suffer the disorder. Some are prepared to battle it, others are still allowing it to rule their lives. It is a challenge, indeed! See you around the #AtoZChallenge. http://spookymrsgreen.com/

Gail M Baugniet - Author said...

You offer an excellent list of means to reduce or eliminate anxiety. Cutting caffeine via coffee and chocolate wouldn't help my writing schedule, though. Walking works best for me.

Gail’s 2016 April A to Z Challenge
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Elizabeth Hein said...

Anxiety and I are well acquainted. Sleep and exercise are important. Detachment is what has helped me the most, though. I work very hard to keep my thoughts from spinning out and letting anxiety take over. It's an ongoing struggle, but anxiety can be dealt with.
Elizabeth Hein - Scribbling in the Storage Room

Patricia Lynne said...

I love that quote. It's so true!

~Patricia Lynne aka Patricia Josephine~
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Patricia Lynne, Indie Author

Me Otherwise said...
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Ls said...

Very good suggestions.. Need to follow them.

Linda said...

Thank you for this helpful post. I have been under a lot of anxiety. I think learning Calmness is going to help. Happy A2Z.

Ravyne said...

Great post! I used to suffer from severe anxiety. Mindfulness is what turned it all around. I like your other tips too! Now if I can only get that sleep thing down pat *laughs*
Best Wishes!
Lori

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Dhalia said...

Calmness is what I strive for - while I lose my temper :P Thanks for the reminder :)


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Chicky Kadambari said...

Rightly said, Sue. There is no point in worrying about things beyond our control!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thank you, Mera Era. Progress in the right direction is what matters, right?

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, Pinksocks! It sure is a stalker!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Hahaha, Kala! Yeah... it can be difficult to achieve, but we must keep trying! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

True, Vinodini. It is more difficult to remain calm these days than it used to be a decade ago.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Yes Leanne! Staying focused in the present moment helps a lot!

Chicky Kadambari said...

I know, Mithila! It is all around us, isn't it?

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thank you, Sunila! Yes, detachment is crucial.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Probably, Raji, but I am sure it can be an acquired trait too.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Haha! Yes, Geets! It is sort of like a clingy ex-boyfriend. Keeps coming back, no matter how hard you try to get rid of him!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Hahahaha! Tina, even I don't know the solution to that one! As my Dad says, it will only make the little one stronger! :P

Chicky Kadambari said...

Perfect mantra, Sheethal! :D

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thank you, Ramya. Things usually do get better if we try. :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh, all of us are there at some point of time, Srivi! And yes, staying detached does help. Thank you for stopping by! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

I'm one of those people too, Aathira. Reading doesn't work for me much, but yeah, doing something I enjoy helps. So does meditation or chanting or listening to music.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh, Princess! Things were that bad, huh? Hope they are better now!
It sure can be difficult to break out of the loop once we get sucked into it!

Chicky Kadambari said...

And Shilpa, at the very top of my "to-cut" list is news! :P

Chicky Kadambari said...

I'm glad the article could help you in some way, Nibha! And now the weekend starts tomorrow! :D

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh it sure is, Catherine! A huge challenge! Focusing on the breathing helps a lot in calming the mind.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Walking is brilliant, Gail. It's my favorite form of exercise!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Keeping our thoughts from spinning out. That's the crux, Elizabeth, isn't it? If you can keep them from getting out of hand in the first place, regaining your mental peace & happiness will be so much easier!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks Patricia! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Me Otherwise, yoga and cultivating a hobby - both very valid pointers! Thank you for sharing your story here. I'm sure it will help whoever lands on this article in the future.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks LS! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, it will, Linda! Thank you for stopping by!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Mindfulness is a great exercise, Lori! With two AtoZs, I doubt you're going to get much sleep this month! :P

Chicky Kadambari said...

You're welcome, Dhalia! :)

Sreesha Divakaran said...

Yup, anxiety and me are buddies.

What I really need to work on is detachment. The other things you've mentioned, I'm making a conscious effort already to follow all of it, but detachment just doesn't come to me. On some days it does, but it only leads to me being more anxious than usual!

Vinodini Iyer said...

I like the last tip the most. Practicing detachment is an art. If mastered it can help in so many ways besides curing anxiety.

Sheethal Susan Jacob said...

The points you have mentioned are some things I lack in my life. No wonder I'm a walking stress volcano!

Swathi Shenoy said...

Of all the tips, I find being detached very difficult!! Was never able to do it.

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Sanch Writes said...

Exercise certainly helps me. Meditation and mindfulness have also been found to be helpful with anxiety though I haven't been consistent enough with it. The only other thing I do is challenge my negative thoughts --- a lot of anxious thoughts are irrational or catastrophic so I challenge them and ask what's the likelihood of xyz happening or what's the evidence for xyz.

Sanch @ Sanch Writes

Shirley Corder said...

Enjoyed this. So true. Need to do something positive to remain calm. Build a Better Blog

SlimExpectations said...

So true, worrying won't stop the bad stuff it just curses today!

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Shilpa Garg said...

I try to do Reiki and meditation (Breathing exercise) to calm the mind and that helps a lot. And of course, banishing negative thoughts gives peace too.

Cathy Graham said...

Great post, Chicky. So true about anxiety and worry. Much better to practice calmness. Loved your wisdom and tips in your post.

I have gotten better as I've gotten older and feel much calmer than in my younger days. Of course it helps I'm not in the workplace, a worrisome and anxiety producing atmosphere if there ever was one. LOL!

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Chicky - this is so sensible ... happiness is calmness in the face of adversity ... we need to accept and progress our way through the negative into the light ... and good examples too - cheers Hilary

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Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Chicky - is this 2016 or the 2017 Challenge ..? I'm befuddled! Cheers Hilary

vishal bheeroo said...

This post is helpful and exercise, proper sleep and flushing negativity help us focus more on the now.

Dipanwita Chakraborty said...

Cutting down on Caffeine would be the most difficult one for me :D . Wonderful compilation Chicky :)

Anita said...

Calmness is much needed. Nice tips :)

Roshan Radhakrishnan said...

practising detachment did not come easily to me but it was necessary in the end.

sugar N spice cookies said...

I do get anxious most of the time, will definitely work on these tips

Sheela said...

Practicing on being detached, because that is the main reason of anxiety. Thanks for the reminder!

CRD said...

You're right that anxiety drains the happiness out of us. But I guess everyone can't be a Dhoni. Each of us has a different way of responding to situations or fears. In fact, although anxiety might make us jittery and disturb our sleep, maybe in certain situations it is the best emotion to help us stay alert, and maybe even make quick decisions. But yeah, anxiety can also make you take insane steps.

I admire Dhoni too. He always seems to be in control...unlike Kohli.

Loved reading.

Cheers,
CRD

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Karen O'Connor said...

I find that taking deep breaths can help bring back calm during stressful situations. WeekendsInMaine

Chicky Kadambari said...

Sreesha, you are right. Detachment is difficult to practice. I'm working on it too.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Vinodini, if we can master that, we'll become zen masters! :P

Chicky Kadambari said...

"Walking stress volcano"! OMG! That's some analogy, Sheethal!

Chicky Kadambari said...

I'm currently working on it too, Swathi! Thanks for stopping by!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Challenging our negative thoughts is an excellent approach, Sanch! You're right. Most of the time, they're rooted in such baseless arguments!

Chicky Kadambari said...

That is true, Shirley! Thanks for visiting!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Exactly, SlimExpectations! It totally destroys today!

Chicky Kadambari said...

@ ALL ABOUT THE WOMAN: thank you! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Reiki helps in keeping anxiety at bay, true. But I find it difficult to do Reiki if I'm already anxious and worked up about something. I have to find an activity to busy my mind then, Shilpa.

Chicky Kadambari said...

I guess age tends to make us less anxious, Cathy. Perhaps we just realize that there is no point in stressing over the little stuff. Thank you for stopping by.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Calmness in the face of adversity, it is, Hilary! Very well said.
I started this series last year, but only got to E. I injured my shoulder and had to do lengthy physiotherapy several times a day. So couldn't complete it last year. I decided to finish it this month.

Chicky Kadambari said...

It sure does, Vishal. Thank you for visiting!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Hahaha! Well I'm more of a tea person, so caffeine is not a challenge for me! ;-)
Thank you for stopping by, Dipanwita! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks Anita! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh! It is like a trap, Doc! I'm still working on it!

Anmol Rawat said...

Ah! I'm not doing any sort of exercises off lately, I sleep for just 4:30 -5 hours a day and there is a lot of caffeine in my system. Gotta complete the A to Z Challenge :p
Great post anyhow and yes, the steps can definitely help.

Chicky Kadambari said...

@ sugarNspice cookies: Hey! You are the other Kadambari, right? From Twitter? :D
Thank you for stopping by. I hope these tips help.

Chicky Kadambari said...

You are welcome, Sheela. And thanks for visiting! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Hello again, CRD! You are right... it is such a drain. I wonder how Dhoni does it! He's like my role model, you know. Thank you for stopping by again. Will hop over to yours in a minute!

Chicky Kadambari said...

OMG! I could never survive on just 5 hours sleep a day! :O
Do pace yourself, Anmol!
Thank you for stopping by!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Deep breathing definitely helps, Karen. Thank you for visiting! :)

Natasha Duncan-Drake said...

My sister leant me a great book called "Sphere of Serenity" and it's all about doing just this. She says she bought it because she knows the writer and he is the walking embodiment of his philosophy :).
Tasha
Tasha's Thinkings - Shapeshifters and Werewolves

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks for sharing about that book, Tasha. I'll check it out on amazon. I hope someday I can be totally free of anxiety too! :D

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