Monday, April 3, 2017

A to Z of Happiness: B - Believe #atozchallenge @AprilA2Z

Money is the root of all evil.
Love is an illusion.
Romance happens only in fairy-tales.
Good guys finish last.
It's a hostile world out there.

And so many other such limiting ideas we grow up with and choose to believe. And in doing so, we forget:

We are what we believe.



Our world and our life is an exact replica of what we believe in the deepest parts of our heart... about ourselves, about others, and about our life and the world.

Belief in Self

If we believe we are not good enough, then we will never be good enough. If we believe we can't do something, then we will never be able to do it. If we doubt whether we deserve something, then we will never get that thing.

The irony is that most of the time, we are the ONLY ones who don't believe in our own awesomeness. People who know us may think we are amazing. They may want to be like us. Some might even be jealous of us. Yet, we remain filled with self doubts. (I know I do that.)

Why is it so difficult for us to see our own beauty and self worth? Why is it so difficult for us to believe that we are wonderful, lovable people, deserving only the best in life?

Belief in Others

As we grow older, we meet people who abuse our trust, and, as a result, it becomes more and more difficult for us to believe in others. We become scared to depend too much on people or share our feelings with them. We don't entrust them with responsibility. We start to believe they will let us down or hurt us in some way. We stop believing in second chances.

But everyone is not the same. Not everyone is "out there to get us". Sometimes, we NEED to trust people, despite our past experiences.

Yes, some people may not deserve a second chance, but WE DO. We need to believe in the goodness of people, because WE DESERVE good people in our life.

Belief in the World

We finish school and then step out into the "big bad world". None of us are ever told that we'll step into the "big beautiful world". We grow up hearing: Life is not a bed of roses. Life screws everyone. Life is a bitch. Even before meeting life, we're convinced that it will be the worst thing to happen to us!

But is life really that bad? Is this world really such a hostile place to live in?

Whenever we need anything, the world provides it. Ways to grow food faster, cures for terminal diseases, technology to build better infrastructure... the Universe "facilitates" scientific discoveries and inventions for whatever we need. Then why do we believe that it is bad?


In order to be truly happy, we need to have a little bit of faith. We need to believe in our own strength and capabilities, and we need to believe in those who love us.

Most of all, we need to believe in life itself. When I opened my store, I received help from the most unimaginable places, and in the most unimaginable ways. The whole world is there to support our dreams. If we believe that we can, we will.

So what do you believe about yourself and the world? Are you ready to challenge any of your "limiting" beliefs?

This is my second post for AtoZ2017.

I have completed this challenge once before, and published it as a kindle ebook.
You can get it on amazon: A to Z of Blogging: Take Your Blog To the Next Level.

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117 comments:

Parul said...

Lovely message to read this morning. So important to believe in one self. All each one of us has got is our self and how can we not believe in the power that this little one has :)

Rajlakshmi said...

I guess it depends on how we are raised and the environmental aspects. Like I still find it hard to believe others specially strangers. But I have found that our world has good people too ... nice and compassionate. :)

Geets said...

Beautiful message.. And it is us who need to believe in ourselves, in our dreams, in humanity, in the world... to make it a better place :)

Cheers
Geets

Archana said...

An apt post, as I see so many people with a low self esteem. You have discussed the topic very well.
Happy AtoZing!
@yenforblue from
Spice of Life!

Gail M Baugniet - Author said...

How true that the cliché is to go out into the big bad world. I love your list of positive thoughts for today! Yes, choices and consequences.

Gail’s 2016 April A to Z Challenge
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Srivi said...

Very well conveyed! And as you said, if we really believe in something then we can do it!
Great post :)
Cheers,
Srivi
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Susan Scott said...

This is a lovely post Chicky thank you - very profound. Faith & Doubt, siblings ... So wonderful to hear about people from all walks, coming to your aid and support when you opened your store! The universe unfolds in its response to the person saying Yes!

Kala Ravi said...

A good thought Chicky! Belief or Vishwaas as we call it is the foundation to all relations and one's own integrity. Cheers to this positive thought of believing in one and all...:)
@KalaRavi16 from
Relax-N-Rave

the little princess said...

yes, yes and yes to everything you've said here. Sometimes people break your belief but I guess you have to let that be and get back on the trust track all over again.

Shubhangi @ The Little Princess

Sheethal Susan Jacob said...

Such a small word, yet so powerful. Yes, it's so important to believe in ourselves and in the world around us. Great post.

Mithila Menezes said...

Belief in self.. Trul required!
Loved this post. I'm glad you decided to do the challenge :)

Nibhz said...

It's so strange that a simple belief can change your life! :) Wonderful message to keep in mind.


Nibha @ Expressions
Bruises Of the Past

The Solitary Writer said...

You have put it so neat! Believe is a strong word and a powerful word too. This post reminds me of a poem I read in school days called I believe.. believing in your abilities and capabilities can create magic..


B - The Eye of the Beholder

holli said...

I love your comment : to be happy you have to have a little faith. That is so so true!! You have to believe in yourself if you expect others to believe in you too. Have a great weekend!

MLQ said...

Chicky ~ I like the positive thrust of your post! Belief is something we form as we go along in life and hopefully leads us in a hopeful direction! Wonderful job! :)
Mary Lou from Me In The Middle
@qmarylou_q

Dahlia said...

Believe it and you can do it - it's as simple as that! At least that's what I believe! And as parents we also need to believe in our children that they too can - which Indians are often guilty of not doing. Thank you for a relevant post.
@mysilverstreaks from
Storiesandmore

Shilpa Garg said...

Such a beautiful message so well articulated, Kadambari! True, we need to trust and believe in ourselves as well as others!!

Shalzzzz said...

That quote is the one thing which we need to always keep in mind! Thanks for this great post. Splendid!
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Sarah Zama said...

That is so true. Beliving in something has an incredibile power over us and other people. Both good and bad.

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.

@JazzFeathers
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Roland D. Yeomans said...

Faith is the small candle in our souls that lights the way through the darkness all around us. :-) Great post.

Guilie Castillo said...

So very, very true... We are what we believe, and life is what we make of it. And, yes, it all starts with what we're taught, what we see at home and in the people around us when we're growing up. A change of outlook is necessary. Lovely to meet you, Chicky!
Guilie @ Life In Dogs (and member of co-host Damyanti's team, D's Company )

Karyn Good said...

So often we are taught to beware, but I certainly love 'big beautiful world' better! Lovely post!

Sue Loncaric said...

Oh I love your post Chicky and I agree we put on the limitations on ourself but if you believe in yourself you can do anything. I ran a full marathon when I was 55 and never thought I would but I commited, trained and believed I would finish - and I did. Thanks for some positivity in my day. Sue @Sizzling60 from
Sizzling Towards Sixty

Leanne said...

I agree with everything you've written here Chicky - it takes a lot of courage to believe in yourself and then to give that same grace to others. I am always a little bit suspicious of the motives of other people (I've been burnt a few times) but we need to trust our instincts and to choose to be happy.
Leanne @ cresting the hill

Rachel said...

True, too many seem to have too little self-esteem, and rely on others or other factors to gain confidence in themselves. Having some belief in your values and what you do is indeed important. Thanks for posting this!

Elizabeth Hein said...

Wonderful post. Belief in oneself is so important (especially for us creative types) but difficult to maintain. It takes strength to keep believing in the face of frustration and obstacles.

Elizabeth Hein - Scribbling in the Storage Room

G Angela David said...

what an inspiring post chikky :) am happy to be reading this post, and yes agree to what you have said. we find difficult to believe coz we are all victims of victims and have never tested the beliefs that have been instilled in us.. glad you have moved out and nice to hear about our store..liked your quote !!

Sunila Vig said...

Oh I fully agree Chicky. It is a big beautiful world and we can be cautious and yet have our faith in tact in us, others and the universe :)

Inderpreet Kaur said...

Good thoughts!! I agree our vibe attracts our tribe. Seeing the positive side make a difference/

Elizabeth Seckman said...

Another wonderful post!

I think the negatives make a bigger impact on us, so it undermines our beliefs. How many things do we (or others) do right in a given day, but then get thrown off kilter by the one bag thing that we do or happens to us? There is much more bad than good, but the bad is like that lit up in neon and the good is fine print.

Miss Andi said...

Absolutely true, our beliefs depend on us - they might not change the outside world but they definitely change our internal world.

Mera Era said...

It our belief in ourselves, others and in the goodness of the world that'll help us going through life with a smile. Of course never letting the guard down is important.
Love the positivity of this post :D

My Era @theerailivedin
The Era I Lived In

Chicky Kadambari said...

"The power that this little one has"!
So well put, Parul. We do need to believe in that power!

Chicky Kadambari said...

That's true, Raji. Our social conditioning and past experiences play an important role in shaping our beliefs.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thank you, Geets! Cheers to you too! :D

Chicky Kadambari said...

At times I'm also one of those people, Archana! :P
Thank you for dropping by! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Isn't that some really strong negative conditioning, Gail? Even as a student! Thank you for visiting.

Chicky Kadambari said...

We sure can, Srivi! Cheers to you too!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, Susan! The Universe in mysterious ways to make our dreams come true! We just need to have a little faith in it!

Chicky Kadambari said...

True, Kala! Thanks!

Chicky Kadambari said...

oh yes, Princess! We can be very unhappy until we are able to trust again. Can be painful.

Chicky Kadambari said...

It sure is, Sheethal. Thank you!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks Mithila!

Chicky Kadambari said...

It sure can, Nibhz! Thanks

Chicky Kadambari said...

Magic is the right word, Ste. What was that poem? Is it on the internet? Share a link if you find it.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Rightly said, Holli! Hope you had a great weekend too!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Yes, MLQ. And if we are lucky, we end up having a strong belief in ourselves and our world.

Chicky Kadambari said...

You said it, Dahlia. Indian parents don't even have faith in their adult children and keep trying to live their lives for them!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks Shilpa!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks Shalini

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, Sarah. It can empower us!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Roland, that was a beautiful thought! Very nicely said! Thank you!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, Guilie. Our growing up years are our formative years!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Me too, Karyn! Thank you!

Chicky Kadambari said...

A full marathon at 55? That must have required a lot of faith and positive outlook! Amazing! I'm so happy to have met you, Sue. You're an inspiration!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Same here, Leanne! But it's not a happy place to be in, is it? :(

Chicky Kadambari said...

Yes Rachel, if we don't believe in ourselves, we look for others' approval all the time.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, Elizabeth. It sure takes a lot of strength, especially if we are prone to self doubts formed during our formative years!

Chicky Kadambari said...

True, G Angela. We just believe most of the stuff told to us by our parents and society without even testing them. Thank you!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Rightly said, Sunila! You're one positive person! :)

Chicky Kadambari said...

Tha Law of Attrcation... right Indy?

Chicky Kadambari said...

A very good analogy, Elizabeth (Seckman). That's some food for though for whoever reads it.

Chicky Kadambari said...

And our internal world is all that matters in keeping us happy! Right, Miss Andi? :D

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thank you, My Era! :)

shalz75 said...

Awesome post to start my day with and rightly said - the power of belief is the key to everything! I follow affirmations with this belief that I can make things happen with my thoughts and attitude!
Thoughtful post Chicky!
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Rajlakshmi said...

Loved your thoughts on big bad world. That is so true. We all grew up thinking that we are preparing for something bad. All it takes is belief... A belief that we can do it and that the world is still beautiful.

Claire Annette said...

Great way to start the week - we need to believe we can do this challenge! We need to believe in each other. Thanks for posting.

Sreesha Divakaran said...

You are so, so, so right! As humans, we are always filled with self doubt and are the ones limiting ourselves. There are so many times we could surprise ourselves if we just believed for one second that it isn't as beyond our reach as we make it out to be!

jaish_vats said...

The thoughts deep rooted in one self cannot be changed by force...instead one should simply try doing what does not have full faith or confidence in and give it your all.. As success nears you the beliefs change on their own

Sheethal Susan Jacob said...

Belief is something we need. But with all that's happening around us, how can we believe in others or a stranger?

Menaka Bharathi said...

Believing in self and others is very important Kadambari, well said. It is in fact necessary in todays scenario, yet there is so much happening in the world that it becomes difficult to believe others
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Menaka Bharathi said...

Believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place. Have faith in your own abilities, work hard and there is nothing you cannot accomplish

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*Menaka Bharathi*

*SimpleIndianMom*

Shalini said...

Such a beautiful message and so well articulated, Chicky!
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Shilpa Garg said...

True, we are what we believe. The thoughts that keep swirling in our head have the power to make us or break us. Staying positive and believing in ourselves is the way forward for a happy life!

Susan Scott said...

Lovely post Chicky thank you .. very true that we can be limited by what we believe. If we can believe in better and more beautiful, the world would be wonderful ...

Swathi Shenoy said...

Agree with you here :) we are what we believe and our beliefs are what keep us going. Great post :)

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Kalpanaa M said...

Believing is important - we can so easily turn cynical and lose our sense of wonder. But lets keep our eyes open and be fully aware of whats happening around us.
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Vinodini Iyer said...

You're right. We become what we believe. What we consciously tell ourselves impact our lives profoundly. Thanks for the reminder. :)

bellybytes said...

If you jump out of a window from the 10th floor without a harness and only the belief that you will land safely , will you really? Belief unfortunately only works when supported by logic and reality

Sanch Writes said...

Self-belief is probably the hardest for most I think. I reckon people find it easier to believe others than themselves...self-doubt is the worst and of course, the opposite of happiness.

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Suzy said...

when we believe in ourselves, half the battle is won. Very nicely written.

Harvest Moon by Hand said...

Excellent advice! Just what I needed to read this morning to start out the day.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Well, I am still working on this, Shalz75. Sometimes, it comes more easily.

Chicky Kadambari said...

... and that the Universe supports our dreams. It works, Raji. I've seen it so many times in my own life.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, Claire! I'm sure we all will ace this AtoZ! :D
Thank you for stopping by!

Chicky Kadambari said...

"Surprise ourselves" indeed! Self doubt probably kills billions of dreams per day! Thank you for stopping by, Sreesha.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Exactly, Jaish! That's what turned me into a believer in the first place!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh I know what you mean, Sheethal. I've seen the worst of people, and that has turned me into such a cynic. But there are good people too. I know. Because I've seen them too.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Yes Menaka, those are the exact concerns of Sheethal too. All I can say is... I've seen some really horrible, self-centered, people. Narcissists, if you will. And I'm still trying to recover from the scars/wounds they left. But I have also met some really selfless people (they are very rare though), who go out of their way to help you see the light.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thanks Shalini

Chicky Kadambari said...

You are actually one of my role models for that, Shilpa.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Exactly, Susan. thank you for stopping by.

Chicky Kadambari said...

Thank you Swathi

Chicky Kadambari said...

You just described the current me, Kalpanaa. A cynic with no sense of wonder. I'm hoping by the end of the series, I can find myself again.

Chicky Kadambari said...

"What we consciously tell ourselves impact our lives profoundly." You know what, Viodini... maybe it's best not to tell ourselves anything, if we can't speak positive, reassuring and motivating things.

Chicky Kadambari said...

I don't know about that, bellybytes. I deal with small kids at my store mostly, who come alone, without any adults. Many of them can't even add, let alone calculating how much change they'll be left with. But they believe they can shop alone. They are not afraid. And they do it successfully. I wonder if these tiny things know something that we adults have forgotten!

Chicky Kadambari said...

100% agree, Sanch! Self doubt kills dreams even before they are born!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Rightly said, Suzy. Half the battle is won! :D Thank you!

Chicky Kadambari said...

I'm glad you could relate to it, Harvest Moon By Hand. Thank you for visiting.

SlimExpectations said...

It's so hard to believe in oneself, but once we do sky is the limit!

ALL ABOUT THE WOMAN said...

Indeed believe in oneself makes the half work done.
You can't be successful if you don't have faith in your core values
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Modern Gypsy said...

Excellent post, and so true, too! When I was growing up, my dad always used to tell me, if you believe you can you will; if you believe you can't you won't. Those were wise words indeed; of course, I learnt the value of them much later in life! ;)

Reema D'souza said...

It is only if we believe in ourselves, we can believe others. Belief is so essential. Loved your post :)

Vidya Sury said...

Limiting beliefs can be tough to overcome if we are conditioned that way. The good news is they are not cast in stone. Our society is so eager to stereotype that beliefs become a part of our upbringing. Took me years to discover that the world is so different from what I thought it was. :)

Sonrisa said...

How words can give such power, like Believe! Heidi visiting from the A to Z Challenge at, Decibel Memos (Perspectives absent of sound)

Tina Basu said...

Belief and trust are the foundations of any relationship - even if the relationship is with yourself!

Chicky Kadambari said...

@SlimExpectations: True, self belief is hard to come by.
Thank you for stopping by. Happy AtoZing!

Chicky Kadambari said...

@ALL ABOUT THE WOMAN: Thank you for stopping by and reading this. Happy AtoZing!

Chicky Kadambari said...

We understand the value of all good things later in life, Modern Gypsy! :D

Chicky Kadambari said...

That is so correct, Reema! Thank you!

Chicky Kadambari said...

And I am still in the process of discovering what it is, Vidya! But changing our conditioning can be tough. Thank you for stopping by!

Chicky Kadambari said...

They sure can, Sonrisa. Thank you for stopping by!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Oh yes, Tina...our relationship with our self is so often overlooked, isn't it?

Lady In Read said...

Believing is half the battle (or more!) and so important (and like you say in your post, identifying the right beliefs matters) thank you for a great post...

Debbie D. said...

Re-doing last year's challenge? Why didn't I think of that?! ☺ I believe the correct phrase is 'The LOVE of money is the root of all evil', not money itself. Makes more sense, yes? Here's a good motto: "Expect the worst but hope for the best". One thing you can say about pessimists, they are rarely disappointed. ;) Cheers!
Debbie @ THE DOGLADY'S DEN
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Chicky Kadambari said...

Thank you, Lady In Read. It sure is.
Happy AtoZing!

Chicky Kadambari said...

Hi Debbie! I only got till E last year, 'coz of my shoulder injury and the subsequent physiotherapy sessions multiple times a day. So decided to re-post the first 5 posts and then finish the series.
Yes, that corrected phrase makes a lot more sense. Wonder why pessimists still remain pessimists then? :p

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