Most of us have so many expectations from and pre-conceived notions about life and everything in it, that we spend all our waking hours measuring the gap between how things "SHOULD BE" and how they actually "ARE".
But happiness begins with acceptance.
Acceptance of what?
Acceptance of self.
We have created this image of a perfect "self" in our mind, and we keep trying to live up to it. That perfect self is naturally neither too fat, nor too thin. It is not too tall, nor too short, and it has the perfect set of eyes, nose, lips, and that perfectly toned body.
We then set restrictions upon ourselves, based on that perfect image. "Don't wear shorts if you don't have slender legs. Hide your body if you're fat. You must be a good cook if you are a woman. Don't get married if you're a man who isn't earning such-and-such amount of money every year."
But all these restrictions are in fact prisons WE lock ourselves into! We need to set ourselves free from the bondage of this perceived "perfection". We need to accept ourselves as we are. If we don't accept ourselves, nobody else will either.
Acceptance of other people.
Acceptance of self is the first step in acceptance of others. If we can accept ourselves with all our shortcomings, we will stop seeking perfection in others too.
Yes, people can be really self-centered, mean and hurtful at times, whether intentionally or unintentionally. But, if we wish to be happy, we need to let them be whoever they choose to be in a particular moment.
We cannot change them anyway. So why raise our blood pressure? We need to just accept them and find a workaround. And if that's not possible, then perhaps it will be best to let go of them.
Acceptance of circumstances in life.
If things can go wrong, they will. As Allen Saunders has said - "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."
Got fired because of the economic meltdown? Lost a limb in an accident? Caught your wife cheating? Pet dog died before you could take him on a trip to the mountains?
Face it. Shit happens. And more shit is just waiting to happen. If we try to stop it from happening, then a different shit will happen, but it will happen nonetheless. Best to just accept it, let go of stuff we can't have, and move on.
Most of us spend our entire life wishing we were different or the people around us were different or even that our whole life was different from what it currently is!
We set benchmarks and we remain unhappy because the reality is nowhere close to those benchmarks. We keep wishing for things to change so that we can be happy, and we don't realize that we need to simply accept them the way they are, in order to be truly happy.
Do you accept things the way they are? Do you wish certain things were different? About you? About others? About your life? Does wishing so make you feel better? What is the one thing in your life that you wish you could learn to accept?
This is my first post for AtoZ2017.
I have completed this challenge once before, and published it as a kindle ebook.
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