Most of us have so many expectations from and pre-conceived notions about life and everything in it, that we spend all our waking hours measuring the gap between how things "SHOULD BE" and how they actually "ARE".
But happiness begins with acceptance.
Acceptance of what?
Acceptance of self.
We have created this image of a perfect "self" in our mind, and we keep trying to live up to it. That perfect self is naturally neither too fat, nor too thin. It is not too dark or too short either, and it has the perfect set of eyes, nose, lips, and a perfectly toned body as well.
We then set restrictions upon ourselves, based on that perfect image. "Don't wear shorts if you don't have slender legs. Hide your body if you're fat. You must be a good cook if you are a woman. Don't get married if you're a man who isn't earning such-and-such amount of money every year."
All these restrictions are prisons WE lock ourselves into! We need to set ourselves free. We need to accept ourselves as we are. If we don't accept ourselves, nobody else will either.
Acceptance of other people.
Acceptance of self is the first step in acceptance of others. And we all know too well - people can be really self-centered and hurtful, whether intentionally or unintentionally!
Sometimes they lie without blinking an eye. Sometimes they drop by at our house uninvited and without calling. Sometimes they use us for their selfish gains and totally forget about us when their work is done. Sometimes they are just so mean and hurtful that we feel like wringing their neck! Sometimes, they are just harmless little annoying pests with an OCD for cleanliness.
We need to just let them be whoever they choose to be in that moment. We cannot change them anyway. So why raise our blood pressure? We should just accept them and find a workaround.
Acceptance of circumstances in life.
If things can go wrong, they will. Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.
Lost a job because of the economic meltdown? Gastritis won't go away? Ex got married to someone else? Pet dog died before you could take him on a trip to the mountains?
Face it. Shit happens. And more shit is just waiting to happen. If we try to stop it from happening, then a different shit will happen, but it will happen nonetheless. Best to just accept it, let go of stuff we can't have, and move on.
Most of us spend our entire life wishing we were different or the people around us were different or even that our whole life was different from what it currently is! We set benchmarks and we remain unhappy because the reality is nowhere close to those benchmarks. We keep wishing for things to change so that we can be happy, and we don't realize that we need to simply accept them the way they are, in order to be truly happy.
Do you accept things the way they are? Do you wish certain things were different? About you? About others? About your life? Does wishing so make you feel better?
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