Day 9 of "2013 Ultimate Blog Challenge" : Two Peas In A Pod... Or Not
This post is inspired by Kaneenika's recent post (http://over-cup-of-tea.blogspot.com/2013/07/ubc-4-compatibility-factor.html) on compatibility factor in relationships. While hers is specific to man-woman relationships, I'll share my views in a broader sense... i.e. for all kinds of relationships.
So do we really need to have common likes and dislikes for a relationship to blossom and grow strong?
To some extent, yes. I mean, it would be great if you could have animated conversations with each other, about topics of mutual interest. At the end of the day, though, what's more important is, as Kaneenika says in her post, to know and understand each other's likes and dislikes, irrespective of whether you like the same things or not.
For example, back in the late 90s, my sister was absolutely crazy about Shahrukh, Salman and Bobby Deol (complete with his long French-poodle hair!), while I only had space for Aamir Khan in my "celebrity-crush" zone! I religiously continued to pull her leg about the 3 actors, never let go of any opportunity for teasing her! Yet, I was the one who bought posters for her, of those same 3 actors, during my college-bunking sprees!
She behaves in quite the same way with me (minus the "teasing", of course, as she's younger). I'm so fond of food. I love those Monginis cakes. She hardly ever touches them. Still, she buys them for me every time she comes over, and tosses them to me saying "Ye lo tumhara kooda-kachra!" (Here's the crap you're so fond of!)
In short, what I'm trying to say is that *that feeling* is more important for any relationship... that you care enough for each other to remember what each other likes and dislikes... than having common likes.
That and how much that relationship matters to you. If it doesn't, then any tiny excuse will be enough of a reason for you to part ways. But if it does mean something to you, then you'll simply overlook little stuff, avoid doing things that the other person is sensitive about, and go out of your way to do things that the other person particularly cares about.
After all, a relationship is only as good as how much you're willing to invest in it. So, just like business ventures, choose your relationships also carefully, and then invest into them whatever you've got. Don't hold back anything. And don't just sit back and expect things to become perfect on their own. Remember: it takes two to tango.
This is my ninth post for 2013 Ultimate Blog Challenge.
Link to the previous post: "When Heavens Turn Gray"
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