Day 13 of "2013 Ultimate Blog Challenge" : Be Free. Be You.
I see people all around me trying so hard to please others... parents, husband, wife, relatives, boss... the list goes on. We Indians are especially experts at this. It has been ingrained deep into our psyche that we must be the prodigal son/daughter, the perfect husband/wife, generous like "Karna", hospitable like "Sudama" and what not!
We must cancel our own plans if a relative drops by unannounced. Attendance is mandatory if there is a wedding in the family. Wives must always treat husbands like God. Children must always sacrifice their own dreams for their parents' wishes. And the icing on the cake... the pressure of "samaaj kya bolega?" (What will the society say?)
So, in short, an average Indian has to first repay the "debt" that he apparently "owes" to his parents for bringing him into this meaningless world, and for fulfilling (or not!) their duties as parents.
Then he has to make sure he doesn't do anything that challenges his "society" to think beyond its established norms.
Once married, he also has to fulfill the demands of his wife, who is most likely chosen by his parents, based on her compatibility with their "society" and not with him. In case of females, she has to live up to the expectations of her in-laws and extended in-laws too.
Then, of course, there are those endless obligations towards relatives, and their relatives, and sometimes even their relatives.
Phewwww! After working so hard to please soooo many people, if someone still has any energy left, then he can finally try to do a few things that he enjoys!
In this whole process, however, we forget one very important thing.
You see that image above? That's the basic atomic structure we all learnt in high school Chemistry. In the center is the nucleus, and moving all around it are electrons. The electrons can come and go, but the nucleus must remain steady. We forget that we are that nucleus.
In being a good son/daughter, husband/wife, relative/friend, we forget who we were meant to be, who we really are. After all, each one of us is different... each one of us is an individual.
So remember... you may become a good son, a good husband, a good father, a good role model in society, but what really matters is "were you a good YOU?"
Sort out your priorities. First, be true to yourself. Be free. Be what you're meant to be. Be the best possible YOU. And then do the best you can for your parents, and everybody else.
This is my 13th post for 2013 Ultimate Blog Challenge.
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