Every time this picture comes up on my webshots wallpaper, my mind is filled with a deep sense of calm.
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Somebody sent this mail to me just minutes ago.
I felt I just had to share it here with my blogger friends!
Here it goes...
A group of 4 to 8 year-old Children were asked, "What does love mean?"
The answers they gave were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined.
"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt... then he wears it everyday."
(Tina - age 7)
"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."
(Clare - Age 5)
"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth."
(Billy - age 4)
"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." (Rebecca - age 8)
"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries... without making them give you any of theirs."
(Chrissy - age 6)
"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
(Terri - age 4)
"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy... and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."
(Danny - age 7)
"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man... who are still friends even after they know each other so well."
(Tommy - age 6)
"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore. That's love"
(Cindy - age 8)
"Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken."
(Elaine - age 5)
"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day."
(Mary Ann - age 4)
... is not just for lovers...
it is also for friends...
... who sometimes love each other better than lovers...
... you don't need to wait for Valentine's Day...
... to tell the people you love...
that you love them!
Ironical really... just 3 days ago I was ranting about the inadequacy of words when we really want to "communicate" with people we love... and I mean "communicate what we really wish to say from our hearts, rather than what is *universally accepted* or what makes its way through the *filters of our mind*!"
Well, guess what! One of my blogger friends landed into the same dilemma today! His parents apparently went to visit him in Chennai, and he couldn't be in town to receive them personally because he was on his way back from Bangalore. In other words, they reached Chennai before he could!
And he has written this "short and sweet" poem about it, that even rhymes! Yeah, for me, a poem isn't really a poem unless it rhymes! Call me a kid if you will... it wouldn't change my preferences! But DO read his post here... http://www.vatsap.com/?p=751
This is what I commented on his post... want to share it with my readers too...
Kaddu, on February 5th, 2008 at 1:37 pm Said:
Yeah… parents intuitively feel our pain… we don’t even need to say so in words…
The entire prb in the world is due to such over-dependence on “words”!
We “expect” other people to express their feelings for us in words… which they never manage to do… the reason for so many broken relationships!
And we “wish” ourselves to be able to express our own feelings for others in words… which we never manage to do… the reason why we can’t “connect” with people at a more meaningful n deeper level.
My 1 year old nephew isn’t able to talk yet… so how does he communicate then?
When he’s happy… he just gives a big ear-to-ear grin… n hugs whoever his tiny arms can get a hold of!
When he’s sad… he doesn’t give that big ear-to-ear grin… but still hugs whoever his tiny arms can get a hold of!
And the bond is made… and the hearts are opened… no explanations given or required… just plain and simple “understanding”…
Loved this post btw! [Hugs for u] Take care…
I suppose that is why Sanjay Dutt calls it the "Jadu Ki Jhappi" ("Magic Hug") in MBBS! Because that one simple gesture can convey everything you really want to say... "heart to heart"!
Well... just wanna say that there are 2 people in the world right now... whom I want to give that "Jadu Ki Jhappi" more than anyone else in the world!
Sunday, February 3, 2008
For once I decide to write on a "current affair" topic!
The whole country is seemingly rejoicing in Harbhajan's so-called "Victory" in the senseless "Racism" case against him! But my question is - "Was he really victorious? Did the incident really see FAIR judgment?"
Ok so the "racism abuse" case has been obliterated from against his name, but the fine imposed on him (50% of the match fee)... is he the only one who deserved that punishment?
I suppose Mr. Singh here simply decided to go on a "verbal attack" on "poor Symonds"... just for the heck of it all! And I guess Symonds had simply walked over to him to mouth a mere "Well played, buddy"!
But Symonds is let off totally free. Not only that, nobody really made much of an effort even, to find out what exactly did he say to Bhajji, to incite him enough to react!
And Ponting has the nerve now to spread that monetary dealings were involved in getting the judgment in favor of the Indian bowler! Will somebody please ask him if he means the same kind of dealings which perhaps might have been involved with the "perfect umpiring" in the first 2 test matches?
Haven't people heard of the saying "those living in glass houses should not throw stones"?
If the Kangaroos are so sensitive about taking abusive comments from other teams, then why did they start this practice in the first place?
Cricket used to be a "gentleman's" game... USED TO BE!
The irony in all of this - Indians are the ones who have actually had to put up with severe "racism" throughout the series!
* Look at the umpiring... the "benefit of doubt" always goes to a "white man"!
* Look at the initial judgment in Bhajji's case... weightage is given to a "white man's" testimony, as against Tendulkar's, who is actually known to have walked out from the pitch, in "run-out" cases, even before the 3rd umpire had the chance to give him an "OUT"!
* And look at things now... the "white man" still goes free, regardless of what he might have said to the "brown man"!
And Indians are actually happy with this judgment? And Ponting is actually NOT happy with this judgment? Oh boy! Indians are just too complacent and too easily satisfied! And Aussies... well they are never satisfied I guess!
What I can't understand in this whole matter is that what has that "monkey" business got to do with "racism" in the first place? Is it something about Symonds ancestral roots? But then, don't we ALL have roots going back to the "apes"? Isn't that what Charles Darwin said?
And what is wrong with Indians anyway? Why are they so much in awe of the "white skin"? I remember when I was working in Dell Tech Support - 95% of the other agents on the floor used to go bonkers speaking to a "white" person! "Yes sir", "Thank you Sir", "I'm so sorry sir"... sounded almost like they were ready to lick those "white" feet!
Why can't everyone simply think of white skin in terms of "less of melanin pigment"? Why can't people simply take people as "people"... nothing more, nothing less!
You know what... I think Indians DO practice "racism"... severe "racism" in fact... more than any other country in the whole world! They practice "racism" against their very own country and countrymen! And if we can't do better than this, then we got exactly what we deserved! So... FAIR ENOUGH... I'd say!
"Current Affairs" are such a waste of time!
Saturday, February 2, 2008
I don't feel like talking these days. Words seem such a waste of time and effort! And worst of all, 99% of the time, we don't even say what we intend to or wish to communicate!
Until a few months back, I always kept wondering why my dad said all those horrible things to me when he disagreed with me on something! I wondered why we couldn't just talk calmly like two mature adults, who love each other and know that they'll always continue doing so, but who are having a minor difference of views at the current time!
And then suddenly one day I started getting these feelings that while he was shouting at me and saying all kindsa crap things... he actually meant something totally different! As if there was another completely different channel of communication between us! In fact, I found myself telling him - "Why can't you simply say that this is what you mean? What's the purpose of saying all those nasty things? All that crap isn't going to help me understand your point of view!"
This started happening more often gradually. Instead of getting caught up in the argument with him, I found myself being able to pin-point exactly what he was trying to say, even though he never actually got around to saying it! This was getting to be a bit spooky you know, 'coz he himself wasn't usually aware of what he actually wanted to say!
Oh yeah... he's always been like this... he's simply terrible at communicating with people! He'll always ALWAYS say JUST the WRONG thing... that will worsen the situation even further! It's as if there is a total lack of coordination between his thought process and his verbal expression!
But hey mind you... whatever problems he may have with his communication skills... he is actually at a very high level of evolution! A very VERY high level! Yeah, it took me almost 30 years to realize this fact! Sighhhhhh! But nowadays... when I've started communicating directly with his "mental process" (instead of listening to his meaningless "words"!)... I have only begun to realize how advanced he is in his thoughts and level of understanding about the laws of nature!
I guess he just comes from some place where they didn't really need words to communicate! You know... like babies are also able to communicate with their moms without words! So wordless communication is definitely possible!
I wish we could all start communicating without words. Words generally create more trouble than good! Because majority of the human species has no clue how to express themselves in words correctly! And now that I'm more and more able to pick up on people's thought waves, this becomes very confusing! Because people NEVER say exactly what they mean! It's like words are always belying the actual feelings and thoughts that are being communicated intuitively!
Actually, I have been able to pick up on "things unsaid" earlier too. This has happened before several times in fact, when a person's words would say something, but my "thought-sensors" would be intercepting a completely different story! And well, living in such a "word-dominated" dimension, we obviously tend to give more weightage to what is being "said" rather than what is being "received intuitively"! Can be disastrous! HAS BEEN disastrous!
I wish they would just do away with words altogether! So we'd have no choice but to rely on what the "subtle forces" are conveying us! (Just imagine guys... you wouldn't have to worry so much about coming up with original "pickup lines" or "ice breakers" or "sentimental love letters"... or whatever!) Life would be so much "less complicated"! Sighhhhh!